Yea yea, I know this is immediately going to cut down my attractiveness as a potential adversary to about 10%, but I'm here as a married man, and yep, she doesn't know. This is not my first rodeo, and I have taken a lot of effort to ensure clear separation of both my personas. If that's an issue, morally or otherwise, then I have no problem with your position. It's not for everyone, I know.