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excess
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 51
Straight Male, 49
0 km · Antrim
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In my experience I can safely say about 5% of the people who mail me have actually read my profile. I started life on this site with a single female profile, and I still have it, but it states quite clearly that I am in a relationship and not looking to meet anyone on my own, however I continue to get a barrage of emails with one liners such as 'Hey babe, fancy a f*ck?'. In short the answer is no, and I'm sure you'd get the same reply from the 200 other women you sent the same mail to! If you are actually interested in having sex with someone off the site, have a bit of respect for them, send them an email that clearly indicates you've actually taken the time to read their profile, and treat them as a human being not a piece of meat!
In summary, in a lot of cases people go to a lot of effort write detailed profiles disclosing information about themselves in order to let prospective meets know what they are / are not interested in, and the sort of person / people they are looking for. Do the decent thing and take time to read it before sending a mail, and then complaining about not getting a response.
BTW this is not a dig at single males as I'm sure there are probably women and couples who do exactly the same thing!
Mr Excess here:
My own view being that if you really want an affair to happen then by that stage you should make your mind up to leave the relationship your in. Why try to hide the fact you no longer love/lust your partner and live within a lie. But never cheat and be dishonest be straight up and get out beforehand. People who feel they have to have an affair are no more than cowards unwilling to stand on their own feet.
That is my general view on the subject. I am not having a pop at any individual here either. Some may not like my view but hey whatever.
Mr Excess calls my rear end my HHH but I'm def not saying what it stands for :giggle:
Well there's no point in rushing head first into something that you would rather work up to. Soft swing is the right stepping stone to take to be sure if full swing is going to be something you do or don't do in the future. There are other couples out there that prefer to take the approach of getting to know couples on various levels and build a confidence between both couples before doing more than soft swing.
