Naughtyelle,
A great thread.
I have to be honest and upfront by stating, I would never try and take someone's partner.
It was done to me and I know how it hurts. I could and would never inflict such pain on some other poor misfortunate. That is who I am and I aint changing now either.
I have had many affairs but never tried to steal that person from the person they are with. But to be honest when i met Teddy i wanted him from the start, but it took eight years for either of us to take the affair route, i didnt steal him from his ex, as their relationship was dead long before me and teddy didnt steal me, my marriage was over when the beatings happened nearly every day.
There is a saying " you cant steal someone if they dont want it" personaly i find that very true. I wanted to be taken, if i didnt i wouldnt be with teddy nealry four years later with two beautiful children.
I dont think setting out on purpose to steal a friends partner, however if the people concerned believe they are with the wrong person then they should be up front about it. The initial pain caused will be less than that when the illict affair is discovered.
Alan sometimes been upfront can be very dangerous and would the pain really be less if your partner knew about it before you leave? Or would it be like rubbing salt into the wound? "I`m having an affair and by the way i`m leaving you for the person i`m shagging?" dont know if i would want to be the person saying that to a soon to be ex. I value my life too much.
Mr Excess here:
My own view being that if you really want an affair to happen then by that stage you should make your mind up to leave the relationship your in. Why try to hide the fact you no longer love/lust your partner and live within a lie. But never cheat and be dishonest be straight up and get out beforehand. People who feel they have to have an affair are no more than cowards unwilling to stand on their own feet.
That is my general view on the subject. I am not having a pop at any individual here either. Some may not like my view but hey whatever.
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How far would you stoop in the name of love:twisted::boxing::boxing::boxing:
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So Is all really fair in love & war or do u believe in the old commandment thou shalt not covet thy neighbours wife/husband
Are we all saints when it comes to love or is it everyone for them selves,an old flame of mine once shocked me by admitting if she aint dead she's fair game,so guys whats ur moral radar when it comes to affairs or the heart.....:inlove:
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