Hello fellow swingers!
I'm new to the forums but not to the site. Funnily I thought that everyone used the chatroom and the forum was obsolete but I was wrong!
Anyway, I have a question that I think would help a lot of people, and has possibly already been answered; but what do the females and couples out there like to see in a message from a single male?
I mean, the forum is overrun by single males constantly messaging females with one liners or just a phone number, so I try and put some effort into my messages. But am I saying the right things?
Like should I be writing long personal messages, like this length, to show that I'm not just spamming hundreds of profiles with the same thing. Or does it come out desperate and needy looking?
And should I bring up to topic of what I'm into sexually in the first message or should i leave it for further correspondence?
Also if a person says something like FACE PICS NECESSARY should I be sending a face pic in the first message?!
Just a couple of things I usually have to think about when I write a message so maybe you can help.
And any other tips to get ahead of the competition would be welcome ;)
Liam
xo
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Hello fellow swingers!
I'm new to the forums but not to the site. Funnily I thought that everyone used the chatroom and the forum was obsolete but I was wrong!
Anyway, I have a question that I think would help a lot of people, and has possibly already been answered; but what do the females and couples out there like to see in a message from a single male?
I mean, the forum is overrun by single males constantly messaging females with one liners or just a phone number, so I try and put some effort into my messages. But am I saying the right things?
Like should I be writing long personal messages, like this length, to show that I'm not just spamming hundreds of profiles with the same thing. Or does it come out desperate and needy looking?
And should I bring up to topic of what I'm into sexually in the first message or should i leave it for further correspondence?
Also if a person says something like FACE PICS NECESSARY should I be sending a face pic in the first message?!
Just a couple of things I usually have to think about when I write a message so maybe you can help.
And any other tips to get ahead of the competition would be welcome ;)
Liam
xo
Well bud there is alot of competition for us single guys who are looking for fun just hang in there mate takes a bit of time to get to know people i have the same problem cant write very good messages but i do know that most people like to see a face pic up on your profile instead of bodyparts if u know what i mean. hang in there bud best of luck to yea.
Hi ...... 
Mrs T here
I like to get a message that is more than ....LOVE YOU PHOTOS ... or ... GREAT TITS HUN ...or ...HERES MY NUMBER ............................................................................................
god what are SOME guys/people thinking ...try being honest with out being crude ...say hi .. tell a little about yourself ...(that you comfortable with telling )...ask questions that you feel are important to you also .... photos are a good idea put i would just say that i would be willing to send invite to private ones or via mobile phone or privete mail if nessary or have it up on your profile ...dont expect a rely all the time as some people just dont reply and others will in there own time , dont keep messaging if you dont get a reply or the rply you where expecting ....a short answer to a bad reply or any reply is a good thing ....Like ...thanks for your reply best off luck ..or hope to chat with you in chat soon ....manners are always rembered and you never know you might meet the person or couple at a meet and they cant say you where rude ect ....
Well i hope all is going will for you hun ...say hi in chat sometime we dont bite
Tomirs 
Mrs T here
I like to get a message that is more than ....LOVE YOU PHOTOS ... or ... GREAT TITS HUN ...or ...HERES MY NUMBER ............................................................................................
god what are SOME guys/people thinking ...try being honest with out being crude ...say hi .. tell a little about yourself ...(that you comfortable with telling )...ask questions that you feel are important to you also .... photos are a good idea put i would just say that i would be willing to send invite to private ones or via mobile phone or privete mail if nessary or have it up on your profile ...dont expect a rely all the time as some people just dont reply and others will in there own time , dont keep messaging if you dont get a reply or the rply you where expecting ....a short answer to a bad reply or any reply is a good thing ....Like ...thanks for your reply best off luck ..or hope to chat with you in chat soon ....manners are always rembered and you never know you might meet the person or couple at a meet and they cant say you where rude ect ....
Well i hope all is going will for you hun ...say hi in chat sometime we dont bite
Tomirs 