hi from a first timer. Married and looking for an affair. 50yr. good looking. athletic body. very fit. non smoker, very casual drinker. would love to meet someone woman in similar situation or any interested female for discreet fun. in southeast and willing to travel
jimmybones i think your sense of morality is somewhat confused. you seem to believe that to swing with someone else's wife or husband is morally acceptable well you are wrong. i believe that all visitors to a site like this are morally bankrupt, including me and you.
To swing with someone else's wife or husband with their knowledge and consent is just fine. Fucking about behind your wife's back isn't.
Swingers aren't "morally wrong" people. They are people whose attitude to sex and sexuality is different from the accepted norm. Morality doesn't even come into it except in the eyes of some very small-minded people who think the swinging community are amoral, which is a hell of a judgement to make.
Work things out with your wife or get a divorce. This is a cowardly and sleazy way to deal with marital problems.
People have affairs for different are many people who are very happily married and in love with their partners but their partner is not interested in sex for many reasons some medical. sex is just part of a relationship so why breakup an otherwise good relationship for just a small part of it. my partner is not interested in sex but I would not leave her for the world. i see nothing wrong in attempting for satisfy my sexual needs with a person who may be in a similar there is not a post for people in this situation on this site there should be. In the US you will find may requests on "craigslist"for discreet affairs mainly from married woman whose husbands cannot fulfill their sexual needs.
You mention none of this in your original post, presumably because you didn't think it was necessary to explain why you want to cheat on your wife. You seem to have assumed that infidelity is par for the course in the swinging lifestyle. This shows a fairly low opinion of the users of this site and a basic misunderstanding of what swinging is.
Swinging shouldn't be viewed as a solution to a problem but as an end in itself. It's about self-expression, passion and fun, not just sticking your dick in whatever moist socket will open for you. You can fulfill your own sexual needs with your right hand if it comes down to it, there's no need to involve anyone else so don't use that as an excuse.
although this site is for all neither of us would knowingly shag another persons spouse, so I kind of agree with the concept of what jimmy is saying. However thats our view and this site is for all and sundry so cant really give out about it!
i think never the twain shall meet on this subject some of us see the glass half empty and some of us see the glass half full. enjoyed the debate, goodbye. I wish you all happiness.
Well rthe subject seems to be pretty divisive with strong arguments on either side so rather than push it I guess I'll say live and let live. None of my business anyhow I guess, all happiness and the best of luck to all concerned.
Sorry if I came across as a prick, I'm just a stubborn bastard I suppose.
Jimmybones ... looks like you have the nack to be a moderator (you know sticking your unwanted nose in other peoples business). But you actually speak well and have consistancy in your answers so maybe you wont get to
alex kink sorry you feel that moderators stick their unwanted nose in other peoples business, can i just say we became mods to help make the site a better place for swingers. We are here to have fun as well and to meet like minded people, we are not all bad.
I agree with up4 on this , and alex the only reason a mod as you call it sticks there nose in , is when site rules are broken , rules which are clear and there for all members to read
i do agree with the point that jimmy would make a good moderator and alex - the only reason ur saying this is because you have been kicked out of the chat rooms by moderators in the past for breaking rules so ur arguement is null and void in my eyes.
this has brought up a good discussion but if its going to turn into a slagging match i wll close the thread down
louise
Breaking the rules MMMmmmmmmmmm Naughty I like that, as for affairs well I dont believe in reincarnation I think we only go around once so make the most of it. We'll be dead long enough.
Hi There Swinging is not the answer as most couples will tell you once you have said you are attach/married that most couples will not be interested as this can open a can of worms if the other party finds out in what you are doing. As a rule we do not meet with married guys only single but there are tell tail signs knowing if a person is married. As mentioned above this can bring problems if the wife/girlfriend or hubby finds out then this can bring nasty problems to a couples door step in which they really don't need.
Quote by user=neverdundisb4 hi from a first timer. Married and looking for an affair. 50yr. good looking. athletic body. very fit. non smoker, very casual drinker. would love to meet someone woman in similar situation or any interested female for discreet fun. in southeast and willing to travel
Hi Echo Then the question should do i part ways with his or her partner. No matter what way you look at this that it is cheating and as for swinging it is of both partners consent that they swap partners open and honest with each other. So in a nutshell the guy in question really shouldn't be on a swingers site. But everyone in life has a choice in what they choose to do.
Quote by user=echo go for it jimmy its too frustrating to go without
Jesus wept and Mary played cards with the three wise men!!!!!!!!
The man is married looking for an affair, not wanting to wipe all forms of life off the earth!!
No one can sit as judge and jury, if that is the case then woe to us all.
Mnay people love their partners , but still need extras, be it sex or emotional attachment to someone else..
To say that your believe in mognogamy and then share your partner with others, but, sit in judgement of a guy looking for an affair is verging on the ludicrous.
Nobody is sitting in judgement, just swinging ain't the way to go. Each and everyone in life has a choice but swinging is not the answer also There's a big difference between swinging and cheating, as most swingers are open and honest with their partners they are unlikely to be receptive to people cheating on their partners in order to have sex. But like we have said it's all down to choice.
Quote by user=addiesfun Jesus wept and Mary played cards with the three wise men!!!!!!!! The man is married looking for an affair, not wanting to wipe all forms of life off the earth!! No one can sit as judge and jury, if that is the case then woe to us all. Mnay people love their partners , but still need extras, be it sex or emotional attachment to someone else.. To say that your believe in mognogamy and then share your partner with others, but, sit in judgement of a guy looking for an affair is verging on the ludicrous.
Ok fair enough the guy is not looking to wipe all forms of life of the earth like addiesfun said , however I feel he is in the wrong place looking for an affair .. and yes b4 someone says it I am a single .. what would I know .. well being a single and naturally nosy anyway the whole cpls swinging intrigues me and I have questioned cpls on their lifestyle , one particular cpl in particular whom im good friends with and one word keeps springing up .. TRUST .. now maybe im wrong but it seems to me that by having an affair ( for whatever reason) without his partners consent /knowledge he is breaking her trust and I would be surprised if any of the genuine people on this site would be up for that .. Im not sitting in judgement on him .. that by no means is my place but I think he is on the wrong site .. one thing ive learned from being here is that meets are based on mutual trust and respect and this guy might be the nicest fella in the world but at the end of the day he is looking to cheat on his partner .. swingers are not cheaters
I would never infer all swingers were cheaters, but some are, guys contacting single fems, Women single guys so on.. without partners knowledge..It happens all the time...
Now this guy was honest, okay his idea of extra marital could be he he sees it as an affiar so to say he is on the wrong site imo (should ahve stated that in previous post) is wrong..
Because this is a site where all types of people seek sex... and not all members of the site are swingers.
I have met quite a few members who will not swing..
True I haven't met you, and I fully respect you don't swing with couples or guys, but my point was not everyone on this site are lookin gto swing with anyone..
A lot of females and males just want sex one on one, for many reasons, and as I said before the guy was totaly upfront, and he got devoured..
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