Sexuality Is it who or what you are?

2 Feb 2010

Was with someone today and the conversation came around to our sexuality and our sexual orientation.. Now until today they were not aware that I am Bi-Sexual, and they were confused between sexuality and orientation. They believe that both are the same, and that makes us what we are, but I believe that they are totaly seperate, sexuality being how we behave with the same or opposite sex, our sexuals needs, fantasies, fetishes, our mind set .. Orientation is our sexual gender, either Bi, Gay, straight ect and that makes who we are... Now she argued that being Bi is a choice, but is it a choice? Are we not born Bi? like another who is born gay or straight? People talk about Bi sexual attraction as being fluid, but is that not too ridgid in itself? Is that not a term or label simply coined to explain who we are? Or am I just talking bull as usual?????

2 Feb 2010

No Virgo you are not talking bull. To me they are both very separate. My sexuality differs all the time, there are times when i feel like a sexual goddess and other times when i just want to go around with rollers in my hair and a house coat on lol. To explain that, to me sexuality is dependant on my mood, if i`m feeling confident i can be the most sexual person on earth and will flirt ect till the cows come home, but when my confidence is low i can feel like just sitting in a dark room and be quite happy not to have contact with another person. If i don't have my makeup on and dressed in the first thing i lay my hands on, i wouldn't attempt to flirt and don't feel attractive. On the other hand with my slap on and dressed as i usually dress i feel like a sex kitten. Being bi on the other hand is not something that depends on my mood, i didn't make a choice to be bi as my first experience with a fem was when i was very young and not aware it wasn't " the pc thing to do" it just felt natural and very good. As i got older the attraction to other woman grew and no matter how hard i tried to fight it i could not change the way i felt. My sexuality does not define who i`am, but been bi is part of my d.n.a. I was born bi as i see no other explanation as to why i felt the attraction to other women, i had not seen two women have any form of sexual contact when i had my first experience but yet i knew what to do, so to my mind it had to be something that was in me when i was born.

3 Feb 2010

I was born asexual,,,,,,,,,,,

4 Feb 2010

Quote by user=Bongo1
I was born asexual,,,,,,,,,,,

I was born a guy but with an interest in all things sexual ... From an early age I was reading & educating myself about sex - in particular the enjoyment .
From a pleasureable enjoyable extastic experience I often be moan that I am not a woman with the capability to multiple orgasm.
I think life experiences may develope your sexuality & over the years I have come to realise the world is not just gay or str8 .... There are many colours in between.
Can you be born with a Bi orientation ? Why not ! If you can be born an artist or musician then why not Bi.
But I do believe in a group or party situation all should play equally.