I have decided to start this thread as I am curious to know if people when they meet rather just meet for fun and move on, or, is friendship also a possibility.
In my time here, I have witnessed how so many people have become friends and I personally believe that this makes any fun encounter even more special for those involved. However, I also realise that sometimes friendship can be mis-interpreted as the formation of a relationship.
For me, I would never have had the courage of discovering my bi side if it weren't for the friendship and advice from people here and for me it has made any meet all the more enjoyable.
So the questions are these!!
Are members open to friendships with those they choose to meet with?
Would members like to meet the same members again for a repeat?
Tricky questions Dar, in all honesty I think a lot of singles come onto swing sites seeking more than just sex, and end up getting confused and often hurt when it doesn't work out.
The secret to maintaining friendships and having sex with friends, is down I think to emtotional maturity, knowing that both people are in it solely for sex and nothing more.
Personaly I have two great FWB's now that took a long time to achieve, but it can and does work, I am not going to lie and say there were times that emotions got in the way but we discussed what was going on, and moved on and the sex got even better..
It is only human nature at times to become attached to a person you are having sex with over a long period of time, but as adults we have to accept that sex and emotions can be seperate, and what a perfect scenario to have.
Someone you trust deeply as a friend, who knows you sexualy but no baggage.
Being able to meet up , have fun and then go your own way, FBW'S are and can be so much more than fuck buddies, it surprises me how some people are loathe to use these terms even on a swing site..
Because that is exactly what two people who meet solely for sex are fuck buddies, or friends with benefits.
Yes people can form relationships after meeting on sites, and very sucessful ones at that, I have lots of friends who have and are still together, but if you take into acc that the vast majority of people on this site are already attached, just out of relationships ect solely seeking sexual thrills ect then you have to accept that and work on the friendships you do have.
It is also possible to make some wonderful friends here, I have and would never dream of getting sexualy involved with them, we simply share a bond, and that is ultimately formed by the fact we are swingers.
To be honest I had no idea what to expect when I first joined this site,,,,so i joined with no expectations.
Ive chatted with hundreds of people from here ...and have met up with quite a few.
To break it down into categories, I have met and had a once off encounter and deciding no further contact , I have have met others on a regular basis.
Some of these I can meet and either have, or not have fun, depending on the mood of the moment, but theres always a great chat and laff either way .
There are however others I have had great chats with, and altho a cyber forum, knew there was no likelihood of any sexual activity, but these people have now become good friends, who I would phone for no other reason that just to say hello.
These people have become an important part of my life now and I would definitely not be happy to lose contact with them.
We do think if you chat to the right person here and click with them you can form an online friendship, and if you choose to meet that person we dont see any reason why you could not become real friends. As long as emotions, ie, falling in love with the other person doesnt come into it, if your a cpl we dont see the harm.
We have had one off meets but still will chat to the people if they are on site and we have had repeat meets and the same applys.
There are members here that we have clicked with who we regard as cyber friends, who we look forward to meeting with even if there is no sex involved.
I would second all that Virgo & Bongo have said.
I can honestly say all the people I have met have remained friends, some I only met for a chat, knowing that there were shared interests but but not sexual. Others were 1 off fun meets, but we have remained friends & then there are those yot just feel you have known forever, the sex is great, you enjoy their company , even your non sex meets are fun, but as friends you each understand your role in each others life.
So yes the friendships can make the Swing experence special & more enjoyable. But as said earlier it is a friendship based on sex, if the going got tough could you count on these friends.
Personally I dont discriminate my friendship...
A friend is a Friend... & I will standby them, no matter how we initially met.
I have met some great, true loyal friends from here that never required sex! So in answer to the question, yes you can make and have friends through the site
we have made lots of friends and some we meet on a regular basis and we would chat to all the time and hope to meet up.
we are new to this site we have met two couples before coming on here and become very good friends with one of them we text and chat all the time we meet them every few months when it suits everyone and its so selaxed because we have become friends we honestly like to keep in contact with people we meet aldo it will not suit everyone maybe were jusy old fashioned, god i hope not lol.
