There are many many reasons for someone being on a swing site. I would like to know why YOU are here. Personally I would have to say that my reasons have changed dramatically since I first joined 2 and a half years ago. Then, as I said before in a thread many moons ago....I joined due to low self esteem. I had had 2 bf's mention to me that they wanted to see me with other men. I thought.....is that all I am good for???? Am I not good enough to be someones only? I returned after an absence at the end of last year to fullfill my sexual desires, increase my experience levels and generally have as much fun as I could after the break up of a serious relationship. I didnt want any emotional attachment but still wanted my physical needs met. During that time I choose to meet people that I would never have considered a relationship with. I met with purely my physical needs in mind. Now.....things have changed again for me. I no longer crave the purely physical, but the needs I have cannot be met on here, nor do I wish to remotely try and meet them through this medium either. So tell me..... What brought you to here? Why are you swinging? The singles.....why are you here? Couples......is swinging now a hobby or has it become a way of life now? It is a once in a blue moon thing to do together or has it become the major factor in your sexual relationship? maybe even more so than you originally thought it might. There are people here for purely recreational reasons.....watching the cams......chatting to folk.......looking at the galleries. There are others who are looking to explore avenues in their sexual life which may have been hidden (eg bisexuality) There are more than want to admit, who are here looking for a relationship, maybe feeling that their sexual side is their greatest assest....that using it might attract a partner. And those who have little of no self esteem and join for negative reasons. Folks....it'd be nice to see some honest replies to this because in truth not all of us joined with our eyes wide open, our esteem and personal relationships at full strength. But i hasten to add, I am not niave to believe that all stories have a negative begining either.
We could give so many reasons just to make a big deal of it but it is very simple we are here to have sex...plain and simple! Sadly for us it is sooo hard to find a true bi fem who is willing to meet and at this stage we are just about ready to give up.
I'm just here because i'm single can't do relationships at the moment keep on been let down or hurt along the way so i'm here to have loads of fun and to make friends along the way if i do meet a girl and fall in love i will leave the site if shes not interested in swinging.
Desdemona :clap: fairplay to you for being so honest. :thumbup: I know I joined before with hubby with eyes closed tightly shut. But after makin many mistakes I now realise it's a feckin great hobby to have and it beats housework :mrgreen: so we came back to give it another shot
Quote by user=Catnmouse10 Desdemona :clap: fairplay to you for being so honest. :thumbup: I know I joined before with hubby with eyes closed tightly shut. But after makin many mistakes I now realise it's a feckin great hobby to have and it beats housework :mrgreen: so we came back to give it another shot
It is not possible to write a universal users guide for anyone joining this site. Delighted to see ye realised ye needed to re-evaluate your situation, but have come back a little wiser. We can't get it right all the time, but so what........ as long as you have a few giggles along the way is the main thing.
For us, its about meeting nice sexy likeminded people, think its great to be in the company of great friends and enjoy ourselves, getting nawty with them is a nice bonus, but never a necessity, then again the girls who enjoy playing with other girls, how else would they go about things?
I use the place as me pressure relief valve. I live in a world of stress, work too hard, dont take holidays, blah blah blah .... so i likes to have a chat and a laugh, have met some great people, met some not so great people.
I dont have any expectations really, so when i do get to spend time with people its great and if anything else happens its a bigger bonus, but its my escape from reality i suppose, as without it i would be alot closer to being tipped over the edge ....lol.
Sean
Quote by user=worshipme I myself only come here for the chat :D
Sorry des i shouldn't have made light of the subject :eeek: I accidentally fell into this...i was looking for someone (spam told me where to find him>>>>ye feckers laugh but remember i was complete internet virgin!!!!) I joined the site and was amazed at the amount of mail that i got so i said i would give it a go. I am completely commitment phobic so NSA suits me down to the ground. So to answer your question Des i guess its purely for the sex---not even the swinging but one on one. What keeps me here is the wonderful people i have met that i can call close friends, the banter in chat--some of ye may call it abuse :S and when i am lonely the people in chat make me feel like i have come home :D to all of ye :kiss:
Great thread Desdemona:bounce::bounce::bounce:
WE joined to have fun and meet new people We feel you need to be able to get on with people and have great fun with them as well. The site has been good to us we have met some great people who we still chat to. The best reason for us was it was the excitment of the unknown.:thrilled::thrilled:
Quote by user=midnightchat Desdemona :clap: fairplay to you for being so honest. :thumbup: I know I joined before with hubby with eyes closed tightly shut. But after makin many mistakes I now realise it's a feckin great hobby to have and it beats housework :mrgreen: so we came back to give it another shot
It is not possible to write a universal users guide for anyone joining this site. Delighted to see ye realised ye needed to re-evaluate your situation, but have come back a little wiser. We can't get it right all the time, but so what........ as long as you have a few giggles along the way is the main thing.
I enjoy the chat and banter. And enjoying messing about on the forums. Also the fact there is a group of people who see this lfestyle as fun and to be enjoyed rather than the way its viewed by the media as something lewd and sleazy.
Also if I'm honest there's an illicit thrill to perving people on cam and scoping out their pics.
To play,
To feel,
To see,
To touch,
To have,
To take,
To make,
To suck,
To laugh,
To cry,
To ride,
To hide,
To bring,
To tease,
To please
To pause
To stroke ,
To glide,
To slip,
To slide,
To nibble,
To tickle,
To talk ,
To sigh,
To show,
To bring,
To smile,
To be me …………………….
i'm here because at home i am invisible... and here.. its a different story...
being on the site has given me back my sexual side... and boy am i glad!
I love playing and here i have met some great playmates... (we wont talk about the one's that weren't that great!)
its allowed me to explore things i wouldn't have had the confidence to do before and do it in a safe environment...
might even venture in to the "couple" zone soon!
Quote by user=gingerfire i'm here because at home i am invisible... and here.. its a different story... being on the site has given me back my sexual side... and boy am i glad! I love playing and here i have met some great playmates... (we wont talk about the one's that weren't that great!) its allowed me to explore things i wouldn't have had the confidence to do before and do it in a safe environment... might even venture in to the "couple" zone soon!
well we joined a year ago after talking about it for awhile, we wanted to find another bi female to spice things up, but after been in the chat rooms for awhile and chatting to some very cool people we have started to meet couples and all is going well so far, also we love the social side of it always nice to have a few good night out....xxxxx
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to all of ye :kiss:
We feel you need to be able to get on with people and have great fun with them as well.
The site has been good to us we have met some great people who we still chat to. The best reason for us was it was the excitment of the unknown.:thrilled::thrilled:
