As the title of this thread suggests, over the past few days I have found myself asking the following question, which I would love to hear other peoples responses to.
What does it take to show others you are genuine?
I have been a member here since 2006, but it is only in the past 4 months I have really engaged with others on the site. I must admit that I have chatted to some amazing people, some whom I consider friends. However when it actually comes to meeting people, the whole thing falls flat on its face.
I do realise that people are nervous, I am nervous too. I also realise it is all too easy to hide at times behind the computer and no one really knows what the other person is like. However, I do believe you can tell a lot by what a person says in the way they type and in their initial approach.
I do not consider myself pushy and I like to think I am mannerly and respectful.
I will also be honest, I did come on here to meet likeminded people and if there is a possibility of some fun I am well up for it. I just want to know, what does it take to show people I am genuine.
Finally, may I also say that in putting this up here, I am NOT seeking sympathy or anything. I would just like to hear people's opinions.
Dar4u xx
Hi Dar4u,
Firstly I do not think for one moment that this is a sympathy post and after having spoken and engaged with you on many occasions, you are most definatley a genuine guy on site..
I don't honestly don't know how you can convince others that you are genuine Dar4u, but I did notice that in your profile you have a comment from other members, and this does help when members are speaking with you..
As for meets not taking place, in my experience it has happened to me a lot, for many reasons, for the most part very genuine ones, on both sides..
But there are times when a meet simply falls apart, perhaps one side loses interest, timing is a factor, distance, or simply there is no connection between people..
Sometimes we just have to accept that and get on with enjoying the site, making new meets , and chatting with others Dar4u, I know it can leave you feeling jaded at times but as you said you are really only getting involved from 4 months ago, so give it some more time..
Last thought... Just be yourself, an honest and open guy, in the long run people DO see through the fakes that populate swing sites, and they eventualy get the bums
Hiya Offally,
Thank you for such lovely comments. You have instilled some more faith in me.
Thank you so much. xx
Fab,
Thank you again. I guess I am just been too anxious. I have to say, been on here has done so much for my confidence. And its good people like you that have done so much for me. Here's to the future!! :bounce:
Dar there isnt anything I can say that hasnt already been said.....
dont give up............
Anny
Dar,
Like Fab and MeMe have said, it does take time, to build up a rapport with others on site, but persevere whilst having fun.
Best of luck,
Padds
Hi guys. If I can put my penny to the jar...I think first you need to be honest... Then honest ....and then well you need those special qualities which will make you sucsessful. From my own experience I think it's the ability to entertain people in the chatroom. On some stage I used to spent every possible time there thinking I'll let people know me, was I sucssesful? Don't think so. I'm lacking some skills here :lol plus i realised my life is going all around this website. Now I just come and check mail from time to time, have a look in forum that's it. No big expectation but not giving up also ...
Dar4u,
i thik any one who has spoken to you knows your the real deal hun, i had never spokent o you before and you helped me big time when i was having hassle in chat, we have been on this site for a long time and still find it hard to get a genuine meet and at times be seen as a genuine cpl because we are not into meeting for drinks ect and are very upfront that we want to meet and be naughty lol.
Part of the problem is that many of the real people here are in clicks and it is very hard to break thorugh that, we try every now and then but we still have a laugh chatting to all the outsiders like ourselfs lol.
We havent given up yet but are close to it, just hang in there for a bit and keep your fingers crossed.
Julie and Grant xxxx
:rose:dar4 ..hang in there dar4,by chatting to people in the chatrooms,there getting to no you as a person,your a bubbly guy,so the rest will come in time hun........ chin up xxxx
well to me it takes patience and quite a bit of chatting to get to know people.. Also as offaly has said above( i cant believe im agreeing with the wagon again! :giggle
I have found you to be nothing only pleasant and mannerly in the chat room so keep up the good work and soldier on...:clap::rose:
