hi all... i think its about time that a couple of helpful articles were added here to the forum. what is swinging..... well, swinging is aimed mainly at well adjusted confident couples who wish to explore their sexuality in a safe and non threatening manner with other like minded said that, within the swinging community , single males and females do also exist and are a welcome addition to the scene. example ... a couple wish to fulfill a fantasy of intimacy with another female...to add a new dimension to their sex life. or, a couple wish to meet a bisexual male in order to act out a long held fantasy of the mans.
So... what are the rules of swinging?
RESPECT is the first one... if you cant interact in a respectful manner...then swinging is not for you.
TRUST is equally important.. its a rumour that swing couples will bed all and is not unusual to spend many months and social meetings building up trust before intimacy happens.
BOUNDARIES as in all things , boundaries are in place so that all parties know what will and will not be acceptable in this lifestyle.
DISCRETION an absolute must.
PROTECTION is another huge issue... most people who enjoy this lifestyle would never dream of putting their or your health in danger, so if you arrange a meeting with a likeminded individual or couple always make sure you carry condoms, otherwise you may have made a wasted journey.
The ability to explore your own sexuality without forming emotional attachments is another important point. It is every swinging couples nightmare that they find a compatiable individual and then discover that one of them wants more than what has been is the main reason why single males find it difficult to get into you think about it... a couple have a lot to lose if things get out of hand.
so what are the no nos .....
agressive behaviour will not win you the trust of the community. not being able to handle rejection will also not score you any brownie points.
expecting to find the love of your life here.... a non starter too.
Presuming that swingers have low moral standards and then treating them like objects for your pleasure will see you swiftly exiting the scene and being shunned.
Swinging is a lifestyle choice...its not suitable for everyone, and that includes folk with personality disorders, those who cant manage to form and maintain normal relationships , and the young and sexually inexperienced. Its also worth mentioning that if you wish your partner to try swinging...but they are reluctant , it may damage your relationship.
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Great post Avalon and have to agree with Westside, trust is the key to a happy swinging lifestyle.
Hows things? :-) Im never far away. Like the good shepard tending to his flock.I have some stories that range from mild amusement to jaundice inducing laughter however i must remain zipped at the mo,in more ways than one.
Being a good little boy,
Westside
