Why are sites populated by people who claim they are Bi-Sexual,just to meet guys.. It is mostly women who are gulity of this,yet when other women contact them they are ignored.
When guys tell them they have a Bi female friend who is willing to meet, the woman will only chat to the guy, refuses to give emails adds and a number to the woman..
Is this because a genuine Bi-Sexual female will cotton on fairly quickly, that the other woman is not Bi, and solely using it to attract males?
It is not fair on genuine Bi-Sexuals, that there are so many dishonest people on sites, it tars many women with the same brush, and personaly I am feckin sick of it.
That could be the case Love, but I would have thought women found it easier to chat, I always do prefer to chat for a long period with the fem, to make sure we are both fully relaxed about an upcoming meet.
It seems prevalent that, some women will meet the guy, then when it comes to talking to the fem, they suddenly won't talk, swap mails ect..
It is certainly not right if people are using the Bi term as bait, especially if they agree to meet & then squirm if a same sex hand is anywhere near them.
I started a thread on this a while back with some very interesting replies.....
"Bi-curious is that the right term for that occassional foray with a member of the same sex.
If you have had a BI experience the curiousity is no longer there ... you know whether you liked it or not & if you will go there again.
The Bi term does seem to scare off the STR8 members,
Strangely a substantial number of women on the site are Bi curious ... is this pandering to their partners "FF action fantasy" or do they really want to kiss the girl.
In most cases Bi really just refers to oral sex with either sex at the meeting, and then only by agreement ...
But I think Slightlysexy hit the nail on the head with this reply
"I think of myself as Bi-Selective, which apparently the definition is :small-print:
BI SELECTIVE
Person who prefers opposite sex sexual activity, but enjoys same sex sexual activity on a limited basis with the right person.
In other words my natural orientation is to towards men but, I do enjoy play with women, in the right circumstances and of course with the right , I wont be down at the local on a Saturday night eyeing up the ladies
I believe its called , having my cake and eating it wink
Unfortunatly theres no bi-selective in the boxes to tick when u join"
You are on this site to encounter new experiences, dont close your mind on the basis of a word.
hun, think you'll find major reason why so many fems on here (in cpl status anyway) is that its nearly always the guy who filled out the profile and he forgot to ask her if she was that way inclined
have met cpls in the past and while sitting down chatting and enjoying a drink the fem said she was NOT bi, but he does all the chatting and writes the profiles, so she was as much in the dark about us when we met, bit strange considering we chatted on phone and chatted for a while before we actually met.
but at the end of the day it really don't matter if the girls are both bi or not, if there isn't a chemistry there between them it don't happen anyway.
easy to dream, but hey its takes a bit of thinking to be a realist
I agree with Baileys, I remember my first ever ffm she was bi no means bisexual not even curious..... it was all her partners idea, which in fairness made me really mad. As it was my first 3sum it was nothing to look back on...but my second made up for it
I have had numerous guys tell me they are bisexual with a straight status on their profile, some say they are embarrassed and don't want all to know they are bisexual!!
Is it really something to be embarrassed about on a swinging site!!
Thanks all for replies so far, a lot of great points, I am not or ever would suggest that all women are posing as Bi to find guys , but it does happen and it wrecks my head..
Interestingly it has happened to me, when single Bi women are involved hence my reasoning, but who knows..
Hands up, I confess I am Bi lol was BIPADDY, Then BIP now Padds... I am sure the site knows that.
Great Post Offally.
I have managed to meet some fantastic peeps on here. Couples, bi men, and even the odd str8 man.
As the site progresses and confidence grows I hope that we will all encounter the same, in the interim, lets have fun.
Sometimes its nice to chat, some folks on site are at the early stage or stages of the swing scene, I for one think patience is as must.
My two pennies worth.
Padds
Well Maybe some prefer to keep that side of them selves to themself. I am Bi selective But i have selected straight on My profile as I was sick of getting acosted by People on here thinking because I have bi on my profile I will
(a)fuck anything with a pulse.
(b) That I am somehow a lesser man???..what the hell is that about?
(c)That I will unmercifully try and turn the male from a cpl to 'The dark side'
At the end of the day, I rather be classesd as open minded, I hate labels, Like everyone here I have the same thing in common, I enjoy the lifestyle and I just want to have some fun. Why pigeon hole yourself?
I asked before and will ask again can we have a bi-selective option on the profiles ...
although Titan I suspect not many guys will select & those that do will be pestered ... but then messaging before reading a profile or having chatted to people in the room would appear to be the norm.
If a guy fills out the form, he might ad Bi to her profile because he might meet more women that way.
Just a guess now, I would never do something like that myself :-)
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I believe its called , having my cake and eating it wink
Unfortunatly theres no bi-selective in the boxes to tick when u join"
You are on this site to encounter new experiences, dont close your mind on the basis of a word.
have met cpls in the past and while sitting down chatting and enjoying a drink the fem said she was NOT bi, but he does all the chatting and writes the profiles, so she was as much in the dark about us when we met, bit strange considering we chatted on phone and chatted for a while before we actually met.
but at the end of the day it really don't matter if the girls are both bi or not, if there isn't a chemistry there between them it don't happen anyway.
easy to dream, but hey its takes a bit of thinking to be a realist 
I have had numerous guys tell me they are bisexual with a straight status on their profile, some say they are embarrassed and don't want all to know they are bisexual!!
Is it really something to be embarrassed about on a swinging site!!
