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To the point mails for making contact

I've just seen a profile for a female and in the ad it says that women on this site get 20-30 mails/day all from guys and its annoying and so on. I can totally understand it to be annoying (unfortunately from a sympathetic rather thaan empathetic point of view)but the user goes on to say "lads, thats not the way to do it" Fair enough.... can anyone tell me what is the correct way to make contact with someone on the site if not by sending a mail to them??
yes, i have received hundreds of mail and i have tried to reply to them all it is common courtesy to reply if someone puts in the time to send it in the first place thats my 2 cents worth
20 or 30 mails a day?? FFS,,We wish,,,We don't get that in a year,and then it's only from single guys,which we don't play with.. No justice in this world!! pmsl.. Liam and Carol...
i get a lot of mail as well but in all honesty most of it is pure crap - if i get a mail from a guy or girl that sounds interesting i will return the favour but if i get a mail saying "hi - want to fuck" well im sorry but its a str8 delete...lol im in the chat room most days and i get involved in chat a lot and thats where i arrange most of the meets i have. so i would say, if you want to meet girls - take a dip into the chat room and say hello louise
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I've just seen a profile for a female and in the ad it says that women on this site get 20-30 mails/day all from guys and its annoying and so on. I can totally understand it to be annoying (unfortunately from a sympathetic rather thaan empathetic point of view)but the user goes on to say "lads, thats not the way to do it" Fair enough.... can anyone tell me what is the correct way to make contact with someone on the site if not by sending a mail to them??

Go to chat,chat,have fun,dont be pushy,be patient,you soon find that you will click better with certain ppl than others and hopefully a meet.
Thats coming from a guy by the way that will never meet anyone here again socially or a swing meet.(except my buddies hotcpl and raven)
Sticking to everyday living ty,
Westside.
By Golly.....Wouldn't mind "clicking" with Louise there,mmmmmmmm.....drinkies Louise,,We're on the way,,ok..... kiss
Some of the comments here really irk me, not nice to discuss mail content on the site,if you don't like the mail in your box, keep it private perhaps?
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Some of the comments here really irk me, not nice to discuss mail content on the site,if you don't like the mail in your box, keep it private perhaps?

Nothing private was discussed just general.
All "irked up" for nothing,duel
Westside.
20 or 30 mails a day?? FFS,,We wish,,,We don't get that in a year,and then it's only from single guys,which we don't play with..
No justice in this world!! pmsl..
That's OUR choice,,WE posted it..Can't see any problem with it!!
My point was if you get mail you do not wish to respond to keep it private, of course single guys will mail, but surely it is a bit "off" to diss them so publicy.. What about newbies? guys who are just finding their way around the site? In my book treat fair with fair, we are all adults, last time I logged on it didn't say Bebo! If you get mail from people whom you have no wish to respond to fair enough, but stop and think how a newbie feels, after reading those remarks.
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My point was if you get mail you do not wish to respond to keep it private, of course single guys will mail, but surely it is a bit "off" to diss them so publicy..
What about newbies? guys who are just finding their way around the site? In my book treat fair with fair, we are all adults, last time I logged on it didn't say Bebo!
If you get mail from people whom you have no wish to respond to fair enough, but stop and think how a newbie feels, after reading those remarks.

Dont read the posts so.
Short and sweet,
Westside.
We did not name names,so that's fine,right? We were referring to "in general". You have a point though,,the toughest job of all in here must be that of a single guy! How they cope,or manage with trying to meet someone in here must be unreal. As for "bebo",,Just another holy crap site. What a waste of good internet space..
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We did not name names,so that's fine,right? We were referring to "in general".
You have a point though,,the toughest job of all in here must be that of a single guy! How they cope,or manage with trying to meet someone in here must be unreal.
As for "bebo",,Just another holy crap site. What a waste of good internet space..

Thanks for taking the time to see my point, I was not being offensive or personal, but I can see it from the single guy point of view , and as I said the newbies.
We all were newbies at one stage..lol.... and made our mistakes;-)
FFS,,We're here 3 years,,and still making them.. Nothing personal taken. It's an adult site after all,,If you can't take it,,Sign up to bebo...pmsl..
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We did not name names,so that's fine,right? We were referring to "in general".
You have a point though,,the toughest job of all in here must be that of a single guy! How they cope,or manage with trying to meet someone in here must be unreal.
As for "bebo",,Just another holy crap site. What a waste of good internet space..

Being a single guy here isnt that tough at all fatc the toughest part is the usual everyday bit of seperate the nasties from the nice ppl.
Difficult enough,
Westside.
Ah, surely it is down to your own instinct??
We disagree West,,That's just Second nature/Expected!!
Teh only way to seperate noce from nasty,geunine from ungenuine is to be around them enough and obviously thats not the case on could talk all year to someone on chat and still not really know them at the end of the day. Justs my two cents, Westside.
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Teh only way to seperate noce from nasty,geunine from ungenuine is to be around them enough and obviously thats not the case on could talk all year to someone on chat and still not really know them at the end of the day.
Justs my two cents,
Westside.

So far I have gone on gut instinct..and it has worked..
Thats good but when you build up trust in someone that that trust is broken its not is everything in life. Westside.
Jesus Westside but it is sex we are talking about...yes??? now i never discuss people I meet ect.. I find that beboish..... but show me one instance where a couple have met online as in sex room?? All the guys I meet just wat sex end off, so why should I complain?
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Jesus Westside but it is sex we are talking about...yes??? now i never discuss people I meet ect.. I find that beboish..... but show me one instance where a couple have met online as in sex room?? All the guys I meet just wat sex end off, so why should I complain?

I understand its a sex im saying is friendships do form and then when friendships form trust is paramount.
Take myself and met through the site as friends for have their life ,i have mine but we are great pals and always will either of us can log out,go away and know that the other isnt going behind their back being creepy,insulting or whatever have a freindship based on trust and dont lie to each other,we respect each others views even when they we chatted first on the site in Oct 06.
Ravenfire is the same.I can fuck off for 100 years, come back and ravenfire will be the exact falseness in any shape or form just proper healthy friendship and being our own ppl meaning we think and speak for ourselves and dont give a fuck what others hot or raven had a prob they would be out straight with it and to the point too.
Thats why myself, hot and raven get along so well because we are straight and upfront about things with each other even when we dont agree or when views do clash and that my dear means everything even in a sex meet.
Did you get all that LOL
Westside.