I was disgusted by the behaviour of a young man in the chatroom today, so disgusted I was shaking with anger!
He insulted two women, and as a result one was left totaly devastated, and the other had to go off into another room.
The majority of other users were brave enough to counteract his insults, and I am sure if a few had of got their hands on him, he would have been left with a red face!
What sort of behaviour is that for a Swing Site?
It is a disgrace that people pay money to go into a chatroom, and be humiliated by nothing short of a creep!
I only hope that Admin have taken the correct action, and banned this ignorant and unpleasant character, there was a new girl about to go on cam, and she was put off when she saw his insults.
Maybe we all need to take responsibility for ensuring that people like this are made aware we find this disgusting and unacceptable. Rather than ignore the issue as mods and admins responsibility, we might make it clear in a civilised manner that the tosser qouta for this year has been reached ...... please vacate the building.
Guys like this tosser give us single guys a bad name... it's hard enough work when you are behaving yourself without this typr of behaviour. Can this guy be outed ie. named and shamed, rather than talking behind his back. How does Admin feel about naming the tosser? great to have strong girls who ,on the absence of mods will, stand up to such tossers. Good on you.
Dubhead
Well it seems the likes of this guy just waits for the mods to leave the room to act like an immature numpty in heat, as I was in there most of the morning.
If this guy was reported via an abuse report (I take it someone did report him) he will be dealt with no one deserves that and abuse/bullying will not be tolerated.
And dubhead naming and shaming is not allowed sorry.
Everybody needs to follow the rules and if someone has been reported then they will be punished as we will not tolerate this sort of behavior, foruntaely we have logs so if its not picked up at the time then it can be addressed when the support ticket is picked up.
I take it that the thread starter put in a ticket, I have no way of knowing if the situation has already been sorted out if one of the other admins has picked it up.
Someone above mentioned vigilante type action, this would not in my opinion be a good way to go and the most likely consequence would be an inflamed situation with more people being banned as a result.
I don't support any naming or shaming policy on any site, as it is open to abuse..
I meant to add earlier that a lot of guys give the women involved their full support, and were very vocal in doing so, so the vast majority of males on this site are pretty decent guys.
But this crap is happening too often, I sat in the main room one day and was shocked when a guy from a couple verbaly insulted a beautiful girl who was on cam about her looks, sadly she left.
This guy as with the guy today should have been permanently banned, no one has the right to insult another member, we don't pay to come here and be insulted, If this happened in a bar or nightclub staff would bar the offenders!
Admin need to take onboard this serious problem, before they are left with a site full of little only nothing but ignorant, tossers who think that paying gives them the right to insult!
I take it that the thread starter put in a ticket, I have no way of knowing if the situation has already been sorted out if one of the other admins has picked it up
One of the women insulted had put in a ticket, so there was already correct action taken. But this needs to be addressed publicly so the offenders know they will be dealt with in the correct fashion as befits a public chatroom.
Exactly Virgo, and I would not endorse vigilante behaviour. I simply meant that silence in the room might seem like acceptance of this behaviour. A simple statement on the room in a civilised manner may make it clear that no one else found the abuse funny or agreeable. The moronic nature of the abuse is incomprehensible. I've seen a stunning woman being abused on cam for not being as young as another female cammer............ My attitude is ignore these people as to give them attention, in any form, only feeds the flames. Maybe by staying silent we only leave them free to continue.
There's nothing up with telling them that they've been reported or are acting in an unacceptable way, if they've been advised and cary on then they can't plead ignorance, although I'm pretty sure that many are well aware that its no more acceptable to act in this way here than it is in real life, its those that use the opportunity to make things worse that we have an issue with.
Its no secret that we regularly ban people for acting in this way, we have a incremental ban levels depending on the situation, some get longer than others, its all depends on what has happened.
Unfortunately no matter what we do there will always be the odd person turning up that is hell bent on causing trouble, all we can do is remove them when they show, I'd also like to say that the mods here do a great job keeping things in line when they are able to and much of this work is often carried out without anyone noticing.
I'd also like to say that the mods here do a great job keeping things in line when they are able to and much of this work is often carried out without anyone noticing
Admin at no stage in my original or subsequent posts did I call into question the fine job your Mods do on this site, as a long standing member I personaly have always shown them the utmost respect. There were no Mods in that room today, so there is no need to include them in the debate. There's nothing up with telling them that they've been reported or are acting in an unacceptable way, if they've been advised and cary on then they can't plead ignorance, although I'm pretty sure that many are well aware that its no more acceptable to act in this way here than it is in real life, its those that use the opportunity to make things worse that we have an issue with. You say that this behaviour is not acceptable either here, then do not pussy foot around on the issue, make a full blanket ban on anyone found insulting another member in chat or on cam, send out a clear message insult and be banned. Now that won't stop anyone rejoining under a new name, but if you hit these people with having to pay again, then they will think twice about insulting behaviour. The guy in question laughed when he was told he was being reproted, I doubt he would laugh if he was made to be out of pocket.
In answer to admin's question I was one of the ppl who reported this abuse this morning and yes his profile is now inactive.I told him openly in the room that his behaviour was going to be reported but it had no was a time when no mods were present, a rare time I may add, and they usually do an amazing got annoyed because I chose not to let him see my private pictures, then when another member said I was entitled to choose who saw my pictures, he turned on her anad said some very nasty and hurtful things to if he has a problem with me,but as I pointed out his very reaction to my refusal to allow him see my pictures was immature and just verified my opinion of why I have no interest in the under 30's...Apologies to all the mature under 30's who use the site
one of his phrases this morning was "so none of you women want dick" as I said immature and maybe just in to cause trouble..I hope it doesn't put ppl off using the cams as the other person who took his vile abuse this morning is a regular user and cammer and I would hate to see her stop camming.
Lass xxxx
Fair Play Virgo for posting this, and too all that responded to what appears to be a repeat of times past! ADMIN Too for taking on board fellow users concerns.
That said you will always get the wankers that expect just because they joined a "SWING SITE" they will get a quick jump, Lord how sad and wrong can you be!
Let's put this situation behind and leave it in the hands of the Mod team. For those that where affected by todays events, I as a male apologise for some idiot that ruined what is and will remain to be the best swing site, and I hope your banned for life! Swingers come in All shapes, sizes, preferences and ethnic backgrounds, we are All one here the likes of abusers like you are not welcome.
Happylouth. . . Rant over . . . .
I have to say, after reading this thread, i do have to agree with vigo on this matter,
Hay i would be the first to admit that you cant get on with everybody all the time, and we are only human, there are times that flareups happen, even with adults, but if this sort of behavour happened in one of my rooms when the host that person would have been removed after the required warnings, I understand the the old bar is the favorite hang out for alot of people, but being in a host supported room does have it;s advantages, even if i didnt get on with someone on this site and they was getting attacked, or targetted by someone like this person, they would have my full support as the room host, and the offender would be kept out of the room for as long as these people we're in it, and yes, i would also put a ticket in, giving full details, as the room host you do have the right to place a ticket of an event in your room if it concerns u or not, so maybe it may be an idea if some instead of being in one of the set rooms to more to either a host supported or open there own room, then at least they have control on the matter,
When we where in a similar situation a fellow member left the room to find a mod to help us out, and done his best to defend us. Ok mods cant be on all the time but if there was more users like our friend who will stand up to these little ass wipes maybe they will get sick of it and fook off and leave us to enjoy the site and the beautiful cams on here.
i was also in the room this morning an this guy was way out of control ...he took it upon himself to insult a female cammer so badly that she came off cam ,he brought her kids into it an that crap is not on ... this guy needs to get the boot he insulted alot of women in that room today with the most disgusting remarks ....what swing site needs members like that ?
Given my history with the mods and admin i would not be expected to defend them, however they cant be everywhere and stop things. To a certain extent the site is self regulating. Everyone needs to respect others but as in life we know this is not realistic. Admin can ban them or terminate their membership but they will join under another name if they are so minded. We have all seen how it gets
Aplologies for the previous post all fingers and thumbs.
Given my history with the mods and admin i would not be expected to defend them, however they cant be everywhere and stop things. To a certain extent the site is self regulating. Everyone needs to respect others but as in life we know this is not realistic. Admin can ban them or terminate their membership but they will join under another name if they are so minded. We have all seen how it gets when a woman is on cam, most of the comments while raunchy are within accepetable limits, however from time to time it gets out of control usually due to an ignored whisper or something like that. I know it is a pain and puts people off but in a free society (sic) unless we have a seven second delay and constant monitoring it is going to be difficult to stop.
"The price of freedom is eternal vigilance" or in mulder speak "walk carefully and carry a big stick".
Mulders, Would they be intelligent enough to do so?, I think not. Louth
Quote by user=muldernTcell Given my history with the mods and admin i would not be expected to defend them, however they cant be everywhere and stop things. To a certain extent the site is self regulating. Everyone needs to respect others but as in life we know this is not realistic. Admin can ban them or terminate their membership but they will join under another name if they are so minded. We have all seen how it gets
Teddy came up with a very good suggestion:scared:, we dont know if its a system already in place but when people join admin should keep a record or their IP address and if they are banned and try to rejoin and this may prevent them rejoining using the same computer.
I am afraid I was't here when this abuse took place and it really is so hurtful for any member to be the recepient of this kind of behaviour. I have been known for defending people when there are no Mods available, and lets face it, the Mods have lives to live just like us all. They do a fantastic job, but right now, as I have said before in similar posts, it is up to all the genuine members to step in and report to Admin and to the Mods about this horrible and disgusting behaviour.
In another thread on here, Titan has named it "Punching above your weight". Well in taking this line, I do think the time has come for us ordinary decent and paid up members to punch above our weight and defend our friends at all times.
And remember, like Raven has referred to, it is not just single males who are carrying out this behaviour, it applies to single females and couples too.
If we don't act now, then the future as I see it is rather bleak for this site....
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And dubhead naming and shaming is not allowed sorry.
one of his phrases this morning was "so none of you women want dick" as I said immature and maybe just in to cause trouble..I hope it doesn't put ppl off using the cams as the other person who took his vile abuse this morning is a regular user and cammer and I would hate to see her stop camming.
Lass xxxx
, we dont know if its a system already in place but when people join admin should keep a record or their IP address and if they are banned and try to rejoin and this may prevent them rejoining using the same computer.
