Hi Everyone
We often encounter the abbreviation "nsa" on the site, whether in profiles, on the forum or elsewhere. Basically it is understood to mean "no strings attached" but I imagine, when it comes down to the nitty-gritty, that still means a lot of different things to a lot of different people.
I wrote a story and posted it in the Stories section as a forerunner to this thread. The story is by no means essential reading, and skewing the purpose of the Stories section, by writing a story to generate a discussion rather than simply to entertain, was perhaps not the best way to go about introducing the subject.
Could I ask now, though, what you believe "nsa" to mean? I don't think that there is a right answer to this, as almost every person will have a different take on it depending on their situation, orientation and what they are seeking for here.
Could I also ask, if you are registered here as a couple and reply to this thread, that you mention whether you are replying as the male partner or the female partner? Not essential, but much appreciated if you do.
I'll add my own views, for whatever they're worth, later on.
Thanks in advance.
Heartiest Regards to Everyone
Cool Hand
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NSA?
female ,
nsa
no strings attached
fuck me and leave
if its good i will contact you AGAIN
no stalking lol
which means please dont ring or text me at 3 0clock in the morning, looking for your leg over
just because you are horny
you live 200 miles away and im not getting out of my bed to drive to the arse hole of nowhere for a quickie that might last 4 minutes lol
apologies in advance if ive started to stalk you
as michael bolton sang.......
how can we be lovers if we cant be friends
la la la la la la la la
Nsa.
Using your sexuality, and enjoying , whilst not having to share emotional intimacy..
Now I can't speak for couples, but as a single, I can enjoy sexual pleasure without the emotional ties.
But I also am lucky to have a few good FB'S and a great FWB, who I can be fully sexualy relaxed with, enjoy sharing and acting out fantasies, but still have no emotional ties with.
It irks me, that society still insists that a person persuing sexual fulfilment but not in a relationship is emotionaly wanting in some way.
Bollix!!!!!!!!!
Fulfiling my sexual needs, has nothing to do with my emotional needs, they are kept totaly seperate, and it is possible to be intimate with a sexual partner without needing love.
Sex God
Hmmm, In response to Barbies post might it be an accronym for 'No stalking After'?
To Me it means mush the same as what addies outlined. I Think you cant be totally cold and detached from the experience but its a matter of not crossing a clearly defined line which makes a coupleing more than a once off or sex only thing.
I must say I agree with addies she put it very well,there has been 2000 years of people telling people "you must do things this way"so what happnes? we denigh who we are , we enjoy each other ,some times we want to make love to each other,and tomorrow have a fond smile, for what last night brought.(sorry about the bad spelling)
Thanks, everyone, for the replies. Some food for thought there, including Actionmanbarbie's clarification that 200 miles would be out of range for a 4-minute quickie. :-( lol.
As others have said, Addie's answer comes pretty close to representing what many of the rest of us think no-strings-attached to be - sharing sexual pleasures with no emotional expectations.
I think too that no-strings-attached can be a range of things depending on what the partners in the relationship want it to be. At one end of the scale it can be simply meeting for sex once. Somewhere in the middle of the scale it can involve numerous meetings for sex and an element of friendship. And at the top end of the scale it can, possibly, involve even holidays and other occasional, non-sexual activities together. The common thread, as already stated, is the emotional detachment and, perhaps, the clear understanding that there is no future together on the cards. How and where the partners find a point on the scale that suits them both is very important. (Admittedly, the above is my perspective on singles more than on couples, and not all would apply to couples.)
Just my tuppenceworth, of course...
Thanks again for all the replies.
Heartiest Regards
Cool Hand
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Thanks, everyone, for the replies. Some food for thought there, including Actionmanbarbie's clarification that 200 miles would be out of range for a 4-minute quickie. :-( lol.
As others have said, Addie's answer comes pretty close to representing what many of the rest of us think no-strings-attached to be - sharing sexual pleasures with no emotional expectations.
I think too that no-strings-attached can be a range of things depending on what the partners in the relationship want it to be. At one end of the scale it can be simply meeting for sex once. Somewhere in the middle of the scale it can involve numerous meetings for sex and an element of friendship. And at the top end of the scale it can, possibly, involve even holidays and other occasional, non-sexual activities together. The common thread, as already stated, is the emotional detachment and, perhaps, the clear understanding that there is no future together on the cards. How and where the partners find a point on the scale that suits them both is very important. (Admittedly, the above is my perspective on singles more than on couples, and not all would apply to couples.)
Just my tuppenceworth, of course...
Thanks again for all the replies.
Heartiest Regards
Cool Hand
Head summed it up perfectly,
we enjoy each other ,some times we want to make love to each other,and tomorrow have a fond smile, for what last night brought.(sorry about the bad spelling..
Society as a whole still frowns on NSA , women who engage are sluts and men , well lol...they are studs,thinking only with their dicks, now many people who enjoy NSA know this is simply not true..
and that is where the true enjoyment is gained, being able to look back and smile, knowing you were sexualy fulfilled, both as a giver and taker, Cool as for at what stage on ecan reach the clear understanding, that is down as you say to both parties involved, and in many cases more than two..
I think the people who can truly enjoy NSA are those who are truly in touch with their sexuality, are able to seperate the need for emotional fulfilment from sexual fulfilment, and that doesn't mean you are cold , giving or recieving sexual pleasure is an emotion in itself, or it wouldn't feel so god damn good..lol..
and as Barbie says knowing what is right for you, driving 200 miles quick fuck, isn't often a pleasure, but hell it can be fun!!
