I've had two long term relationships, the first lasted 2.5 years and the second lasted 6 years. two very different girls but the same outcome. My first relationship was with a girl was was slim, blonde attractive, outgoing and a bit of a flirt. the first year was heaven but then she went on a girls holiday to spain and when she came back i found out she had a romance with black guy. we got over it and things returned to normal until the next girls holiday in the med. she came back and apparently it was a low key holiday. but months later i found some photos of the holiday that had been hidden. pics of her with yet another black guy, some were quite explicit. soon after the relationship ended.
months later i met my second girlfriend. very different girl. she was intelligent, conservative and even a bit shy. she looked different too, not fat but large in the backside and bust, brunette and a very pretty fface. three years went by and it was perfect. we loved eachother very much but she took a job on as a carer in a house that was home to two mentally disabled people. she worked a lot of night shifts at this house, two and sometimes three a week. after six months of doing the job she admitted to me that she'd been having sex on the night shifts with a co-worker. a black guy of all things. nigerian in his late 40's. we didnt break up but she took a transfer to a different house and all seemingly was well. but after a year i found out that she was working with yet another nigerian man, on late shifts. i asked her bout it and she admitted they'd been at it for a few months. we remained together but she couldnt get another transfer so the affair continued with my consent. i loved her very much and at this stage was a little bit aroused by it all. we explored the "lifestyle" but it ended soon after. since then i cant get the idea out of my head and have been looking for a girl that might be interested in sleeping black men.
i cant still to get to grips with these feelings. anyone out there with advice? or feeling the same?
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Hi Studincock,
If you are interested in having a female FB, who would also enjoy sex NSA with a Black guy, then place an ad on site, why should you feel this is a problem?.
Relax and forget about the past, sheer coincidence both girls slept with Black guys, and as you already said you were happy to let the second relationship run, given she was enjoying sex elsewhere.
Go and find a girl willing to share your needs equaly Studincock, and don't just settle for getting off on someone elses sexual enjoyment.. Good Luck:thumbup:
i never joined in. she didnt want that and i didnt really either at that stage. i did get left out a bit and maybe that was part of the turn on. i did want to watch, partly out of curiosity (did she enjoy it more with him) the closest it came to me watching was when she took some pics on her camera phone of them together and sent them to me.
Sex God
Hi studincock,
interesting discussion you have started . its a very common thing in the United states, the whole girlfriend been sexually looked after by black men while the white boyfriend accepts it on the outside, but with reservations while deep down gets a secret thrill from it?
Its misfortounate that you were in the similar situation with two women consequetively but the way you looked at the situation and how you dealt with it says to me you might well be of this dispostion.
All I will say is that placing an ad here on the 'lets meet up' Thread clearly outlining what you are looking for might be of help to you.
i am quite happily married but have had a number of black lovers over the years. my husband allows it but doesnt take pleasure from it. it would be great if he did. I think this isn't too common in ireland but many girls would love to try it. I think a LOT of women would love to be with you and share this lifestyle. a loving irish boyfirend, albeit probably fairly poor in the bedroom, who allows a girl to have black lovers. thats like winning the lottery. out of interest, did either or both of your girlfriends express disappointment with your sexual performance?
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my first girlfriend didnt say I was bad in bed. the second did say at times she was totally unsatisfied with my performance. she also said that size had been a factor.
Listen studincock honestly I think you are obsessing over this issue, and feel that you now have to indulge in threesomes with black guys to adress the situation.
Would you not be better just having some fun? Getting on with your life and enjoying good sex with girls who will appreciate you?
If in all honesty you are only getting into this for the above reasons, you will never fully lose that sense of second best.
By the time a woman properly matures, she is aware of the fact that size does not matter to enjoy a good sexual experience, rather how a man uses his penis.
Sex God
Addies,
I think the point studincock is making is that he has a desire to find out if these feelings he harbours are normal or mainstream, hazarding a guess Studincock? if that so be the matter I think you will find no its not main stream but normal, well thers nothing distasteful or illegal about it so if its going to work for him I say indulge in it, but be sure its really what you want as sometimes living out fantasies can be a bad job. I know you have had the expoerience first hand stud, but I mean to follow it up on the basis on albeit your rules.
Orgasminator
:Ptis all a myth, hand on heart ive had more afro carribean lovers than any other nationality and belive me they love the irish none off them ever told me id a little willie ,mind you none off them told me id a big willie either getting bogged down in race is a load off old bollix ,get out there and love the world :doggy:
How can you get turned on , while feeling second best?
It does seem that Titan read it well, so go for it and enjoy..