Hi folks!
Is there any way, any way at all here, to meet a nice lady outside of the chatroom?
I gave up sending emails, as out of dozens and dozens of messages sent, I received NO replies. It seems anyway, that a lady would have to be a full member to reply, which I am sure most are not. Besides all the obviously fake ads.
I can understand perfectly why ladies do not want PMs, as I can imagine what most of those PMs are. So PMs are out too.
That just leaves the general chatrooms. I have to say, I find the chatter there absolutely inane, dozens of people all saying "Hiiiiiiii, Okkkkkkkkk, Cooooooool, Babyyyyyyyyy," etc. There is no meaningful discussion there at all. I am guilty of logging in and sitting quietly reading the chatter, and I cannot learn one thing about anyone there through the chat they offer, except that there seem to be some rather rude and offhand people. A couple of times I tried to join in, but my contributions were completely ignored. Just like my emails.
I am looking for a genuine friend for light sexy fun, no strings, but happy to meet just one person who wants what I do. I'm not here to drool over women, and ask them to 'gettemoff' on cam. I have a great sense of humour, and usually click straight off with people I meet in the real world. I just haven't met anyone for what I'm looking for. But I cannot put my true self across on these chatrooms at all. I find them a complete waste of time. And as I say, my very friendly, funny, relaxed, no pressure emails are completely ignored.
So what do I do? I paid the full annual membership, as a token of my taking the site seriously, and to get the full value of the site. To date, I have not even had ONE word of CONTACT with anyone, let alone a date! I know the site is a moneymaking gimmick, but there ARE a few ladies here. They just don't seem to be genuinely looking for a nice, single guy.
Any thoughts?
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Is there anything beyond the chatrooms?
First of all - welcome to the Site - and No! it's not a money-making gimmick - it's a great place for like minded adults to interact before going to the next stage of meeting.
I gave up sending emails, as out of dozens and dozens of messages sent, I received NO replies.
There are lots of other threads on the Forums, that explain the myriad reasons why you boys dont' get replies so I wont' labour that point here - check out the thread started by Mixer some time ago - the best answers are there.
It seems anyway, that a lady would have to be a full member to reply, which I am sure most are not.
You don't have to be a 'full member' to mail anyone - and that goes for the boys and the girls.
Besides all the obviously fake ads.
What some refer to as 'Fake Ads' may well be the profiles left behind by folks who have tried the site and left it - for whatever reason. Anyone who tries to use the site for more 'commercial' reasons will find their way blocked PDQ by the Mods and Admin Team. They rely on the genuine folks to report anything that is illegal around here so they can be 100% on the ball in keeping this place real and active for everyone's sake!
I can understand perfectly why ladies do not want PMs, as I can imagine what most of those PMs are. So PMs are out too.
PMs are a pain - in the main, they stop the flow of chat in the rooms; are used randomly by the TWONKs who can't learn basic manners in mixed company and get folks into bother when they go astray. I would vote to get rid of it altogether lol. However, while we have it, there is a very simple protocol in place by which the PM can be effective in furthering a link between interested parties.
That just leaves the general chatrooms. I have to say, I find the chatter there absolutely inane, dozens of people all saying "Hiiiiiiii, Okkkkkkkkk, Cooooooool, Babyyyyyyyyy," etc. There is no meaningful discussion there at all.
The chatrooms are public, recorded and monitored, for everyone's safety - so are not the place for in-depth personal conversations. If you want to do that, exchange private mail addys via the mailing system and move on at your own rate of progress. For the rest of us, who love the craic, enjoy seeing how other people interact with each other and spending some downtime with friends, acquaintances and new faces, then the chatrooms here are the best place to be of all the similiar sites on the web!! I know - I've tried most of them lol
I am guilty of logging in and sitting quietly reading the chatter, and I cannot learn one thing about anyone there through the chat they offer, except that there seem to be some rather rude and offhand people. A couple of times I tried to join in, but my contributions were completely ignored. Just like my emails.
I am an advocate of the "Shut up, Watch, Listen and Learn" School of Education, so I can't agree that you have learned nothing - even if you can't see what you're achieving by doing so - yet!.
However, the chatrooms are an interface - and they only work well when you join in, so the next time you are 'lurking' speak up and keep speaking up until you are elbow deep in conversations from all quarters. I am a long term member here and can safely say that I don't recall seeing you even lurking, let alone joining in the banter - inane though it may be - sometimes you have to take a step backward before you can go forward to bigger and better things.
I am looking for a genuine friend for light sexy fun, no strings, but happy to meet just one person who wants what I do. I'm not here to drool over women, and ask them to 'gettemoff' on cam. I have a great sense of humour, and usually click straight off with people I meet in the real world. I just haven't met anyone for what I'm looking for. But I cannot put my true self across on these chatrooms at all. I find them a complete waste of time. And as I say, my very friendly, funny, relaxed, no pressure emails are completely ignored.
I'm glad you have the right attitude for an adult even on swinger's site and that will stand you in good stead around the scene in general - be yourself, get what enjoyment you can and hurt no one in the process - time WILL bring it's rewards.
So what do I do? I paid the full annual membership, as a token of my taking the site seriously, and to get the full value of the site. To date, I have not even had ONE word of CONTACT with anyone, let alone a date! I know the site is a moneymaking gimmick, but there ARE a few ladies here. They just don't seem to be genuinely looking for a nice, single guy.
This is the nugget of your dilema here - being a single guy in the swinging scene means you are only one of about 50 other guys for each and every female on the site - and that's not taking account of personal sexual preferences lol even the girls are sometimes looking for pussy rather than cock lol
So my advice is sit back, breath deep, join in the conversations in the chatroom, go to the social events held and don't expect a tidal wave of approaches - unless it's from the very lovely gay and bi boys we have here too lol (just joking Bois :haha:
Is that enough to give you some insight into your situation?
I gave up sending emails, as out of dozens and dozens of messages sent, I received NO replies.
There are lots of other threads on the Forums, that explain the myriad reasons why you boys dont' get replies so I wont' labour that point here - check out the thread started by Mixer some time ago - the best answers are there.
It seems anyway, that a lady would have to be a full member to reply, which I am sure most are not.
You don't have to be a 'full member' to mail anyone - and that goes for the boys and the girls.
Besides all the obviously fake ads.
What some refer to as 'Fake Ads' may well be the profiles left behind by folks who have tried the site and left it - for whatever reason. Anyone who tries to use the site for more 'commercial' reasons will find their way blocked PDQ by the Mods and Admin Team. They rely on the genuine folks to report anything that is illegal around here so they can be 100% on the ball in keeping this place real and active for everyone's sake!
I can understand perfectly why ladies do not want PMs, as I can imagine what most of those PMs are. So PMs are out too.
PMs are a pain - in the main, they stop the flow of chat in the rooms; are used randomly by the TWONKs who can't learn basic manners in mixed company and get folks into bother when they go astray. I would vote to get rid of it altogether lol. However, while we have it, there is a very simple protocol in place by which the PM can be effective in furthering a link between interested parties.
That just leaves the general chatrooms. I have to say, I find the chatter there absolutely inane, dozens of people all saying "Hiiiiiiii, Okkkkkkkkk, Cooooooool, Babyyyyyyyyy," etc. There is no meaningful discussion there at all.
The chatrooms are public, recorded and monitored, for everyone's safety - so are not the place for in-depth personal conversations. If you want to do that, exchange private mail addys via the mailing system and move on at your own rate of progress. For the rest of us, who love the craic, enjoy seeing how other people interact with each other and spending some downtime with friends, acquaintances and new faces, then the chatrooms here are the best place to be of all the similiar sites on the web!! I know - I've tried most of them lol
I am guilty of logging in and sitting quietly reading the chatter, and I cannot learn one thing about anyone there through the chat they offer, except that there seem to be some rather rude and offhand people. A couple of times I tried to join in, but my contributions were completely ignored. Just like my emails.
I am an advocate of the "Shut up, Watch, Listen and Learn" School of Education, so I can't agree that you have learned nothing - even if you can't see what you're achieving by doing so - yet!.
However, the chatrooms are an interface - and they only work well when you join in, so the next time you are 'lurking' speak up and keep speaking up until you are elbow deep in conversations from all quarters. I am a long term member here and can safely say that I don't recall seeing you even lurking, let alone joining in the banter - inane though it may be - sometimes you have to take a step backward before you can go forward to bigger and better things.
I am looking for a genuine friend for light sexy fun, no strings, but happy to meet just one person who wants what I do. I'm not here to drool over women, and ask them to 'gettemoff' on cam. I have a great sense of humour, and usually click straight off with people I meet in the real world. I just haven't met anyone for what I'm looking for. But I cannot put my true self across on these chatrooms at all. I find them a complete waste of time. And as I say, my very friendly, funny, relaxed, no pressure emails are completely ignored.
I'm glad you have the right attitude for an adult even on swinger's site and that will stand you in good stead around the scene in general - be yourself, get what enjoyment you can and hurt no one in the process - time WILL bring it's rewards.
So what do I do? I paid the full annual membership, as a token of my taking the site seriously, and to get the full value of the site. To date, I have not even had ONE word of CONTACT with anyone, let alone a date! I know the site is a moneymaking gimmick, but there ARE a few ladies here. They just don't seem to be genuinely looking for a nice, single guy.
This is the nugget of your dilema here - being a single guy in the swinging scene means you are only one of about 50 other guys for each and every female on the site - and that's not taking account of personal sexual preferences lol even the girls are sometimes looking for pussy rather than cock lol
So my advice is sit back, breath deep, join in the conversations in the chatroom, go to the social events held and don't expect a tidal wave of approaches - unless it's from the very lovely gay and bi boys we have here too lol (just joking Bois :haha:
Is that enough to give you some insight into your situation?
Hi all again...
Many thanks for all those kind words and support. I am well aware of the fifty men for every woman syndrome! In that way, I sure didn't expect to come away with fistfuls of dates! I did hope to make a small bit of contact with someone somewhere though.
Will try the chatrooms again. Perhaps I haven't tried hard enough. It doesn't help that some nights you are tired and not really concentrating well on what's going on.
I was aware that being 'swing4ireland,' the site was primarily geared towards swinging couples, rather than singles. I wouldn't really be into meeting couples, I'm just here for female friendship! Anyway, I shall endeavour to launch myself with gay abandon into the chatroom at some stage!!! (that's happy gay, as opposed to gay gay... LOL)
Many thanks again...
Sex God
I read this thread a few days ago and I decided not to reply til today,
I would echo some of the sentiments of the posters above me, but you have Said in your last post your not really here to meet couples? well you will find you may have reduced your chances of meeting people by another degree, the majority here are cpls seeking females or other couples, you do get the odd few that dare go to that often dangerous yet sometimes fulfilling place....MMF meets! But Dont Loose heart, Trying hard in the chat rooms can have the opposite effect at times, some try and come in with loads of bravdo to make an impact, bad move Just be yourself, I was here 8 months before I met anyone, it does take time. Look at it this way, Would you walk into a pub and expect a woman to drop her knickers and throw a leg across ya on the utterance of 'Hi wanna fuck'? The same mentality never works in the chat rooms here or for that matter emails.
Stick with it, best things come to those that wait.
Titan79
After reading your post here, I would say that you have probably increased your chances of meeting as you say A female friend for light sexy fun..
It can be difficult to form opinons solely from talk in the chatroom, unless you invite a person into private chat..
Females on site recieve a lot of mail, and very often it is difficult to reply , a lot of people do not take the time to read profiles ect, so a lot of mail gets binned..
Good luck on your search, as posters have already said, it does take time to find what you want on sites, but very often it is worth the effort.
