just want to throw this out in order to garner opinion on it ... So I am contacted by a male site member asking to meet and i agreed , limited communication apart from the odd chat here and there previous , so the day arrives and he texts me to ask my time of arrival to hotel ... bearing in mind I have never met this guy before and dont know him from adam , i rang him ... he proceeds to tell me he will be waiting in the room and will text me the room number when i get to hotel ... my reaction to this was as follows ... emmmm ive never clapped eyes on you before , the least you can do is have some manners and meet me in the bar first ...to which he replies ...I would not feel comfortable with that . He mistook me for a whore who had no qualms about meeting him and fucking him with no concern for my own safety . Now heres my question .... IS THIS NORMAL BEHAVIOUR HERE ? and if so no wonder the fookers cant get any real live woman to meet them . Opinions please .
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in your opinion ... is this attitude the norm ???
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Well Im not a girl (checks underpants) but if I was and that happened to me I'd have told him to f#ck right off with himself and hung up there and then.
Im well out of practice in the meeting a girl / date scenario, but in my heyday (15 yrs ago) it would have been considered rude to act in such a way towards a girl (Swinging or otherwise).
Whats wrong with meeting you in the lobby or bar, having a couple of drinks & a chat and seeing how the meeting goes before taking it any further? Why would he feel uncomfortable about meeting you in the bar/lobby? Id say he just wanted to get you into that room, and have his way without even the courtesy of buying you a coffee / lunch / drink etc.
Hope you told him that the room he payed for would only be used to allow him to wank off alone ;)
There is no way I'd do a meet like that!
I always have a coffee with someone first to see if there is a spark between us. I wouldn't take that kind of risk. I dont have a lot of time for play and id prefer to know than waste my time. He also has a cheek expecting you to agree to that kind of behavior. Any man I have ever met in a hotel has either collected me at my car or waited in Lobby/bar for me.
Be careful when meeting someone in a hotel, have a person u know to text where u are.. Room number etc so you don't become a missing person!
Ask about them on site, the girls will tell you straight out if they are messers/ time wasters or just plain weird. Look for verifications on profiles especially if they are on years with no comments or verifications.. Alarm bells!!
So no this is not behavior I would expect or accept!
Stay safe and have fun!
Ginger
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There is no way I'd do a meet like that!
I always have a coffee with someone first to see if there is a spark between us. I wouldn't take that kind of risk. I dont have a lot of time for play and id prefer to know than waste my time. He also has a cheek expecting you to agree to that kind of behavior. Any man I have ever met in a hotel has either collected me at my car or waited in Lobby/bar for me.
Be careful when meeting someone in a hotel, have a person u know to text where u are.. Room number etc so you don't become a missing person!
Ask about them on site, the girls will tell you straight out if they are messers/ time wasters or just plain weird. Look for verifications on profiles especially if they are on years with no comments or verifications.. Alarm bells!!
So no this is not behavior I would expect or accept!
Stay safe and have fun!
Ginger
I agree there can't believe the nerve of some people, that's a terrible attitude to have and that won't take him very far at all on here.
Biggirl 
....i am gonna go against everyone else :eeek: but its the way that works for me. However i hope the men will take not that this doesn't work for everyone!!!I have in the past invited someone off site to MY hotel room that i have not met before and i have also had men come to my apt as well. I however chat, text, mail before i do and ALWAYS TRUST my instincts. I have been very lucky. I have also gotton to know them thru the chatroom, met them at a M&G or gotton a referral :giggle: (btw-if i have seen a comment on their profile-i have no problem mailing the girl to get the low-down). The reason why i do it this way is because i live in the backend of nowhere 
and i have men from dublin or cork coming to meet...but they wouldn;t travel 3-4 hours for a coffee--i guess it would be different if i lived in Dublin.
I would however have a problem going to his hotel room and even more so that he wasn't comfortable meeting me in the bar for a coffee or drink first
Biggirl...i am sure you will have many of happy safe times here so chin up chick and happy hunting ;)
X worship
....i am gonna go against everyone else :eeek: but its the way that works for me. However i hope the men will take not that this doesn't work for everyone!!!I have in the past invited someone off site to MY hotel room that i have not met before and i have also had men come to my apt as well. I however chat, text, mail before i do and ALWAYS TRUST my instincts. I have been very lucky. I have also gotton to know them thru the chatroom, met them at a M&G or gotton a referral :giggle: (btw-if i have seen a comment on their profile-i have no problem mailing the girl to get the low-down). The reason why i do it this way is because i live in the backend of nowhere and i have men from dublin or cork coming to meet...but they wouldn;t travel 3-4 hours for a coffee--i guess it would be different if i lived in Dublin.I would however have a problem going to his hotel room and even more so that he wasn't comfortable meeting me in the bar for a coffee or drink first
Biggirl...i am sure you will have many of happy safe times here so chin up chick and happy hunting ;)
X worship
Sometimes i really really wonder ......
I will just never understand some people.
Am sorry you had this happen to you and i hope that you can put it behind you and not be too put off meeting other people.
As others have said , do your research before meeting someone.
A lucky escape i think.
Sean
hi
well first of all what a prat .... god it hard enought for ppl to get the stomack up to have a meet and to think he wante u to just meet in the room . no way
any meet i have had (not to many i must say ) have allways been as follows , good chat in here for a while then a phone chat and if ppl are all happy then plan a meet
but even at that i would have to meet some1 in a bar first just in case of second thoughts or the off chance that ppl just dont get on
well thats my thoughs on the subject
soth
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Thats shocking behaviour! Weirdo alert. Fleeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
