after a chat today just wondering on everyones opinions of how to say no without causing offense but getting your point accross??
Id be more into just saying no thanks and not given a reason, and if it was me getting a no thanks, I wouldnt expect a reason either
No thanks is enough, well it would be for me. I wouldnt expect a reason and I wouldnt give one either.
You have it right as you do it kkgirl. A simple no thanks should suffice. However if it doesnt just tell them "I said no thanks, now go away please"
If they are offended well thats just too bad. They should have folded at "No"
Well if someone says yes I do not question it so why should a no reply be any different!!.
And a reason need not be given either, respect for peoples desires / choices is often lacking on this site.
A no reply should not sent the respondant into coventry either I have had great craic in chat,at parties and at M&Gs with people who have said no to me.
Respect and discretion are two traits which seem to be leaving this site.
Generally when we say no to someone we've meet or chatted with we just say that we didn't feel a connection / spark and leave it at that. 99% of people are ok with that, as are we when on the receiving end of a rejection, its the small few whom are emotionally immature or insecure that take rejection badly that can be problematic. in that case its best to politely disengage and move away (or run screaming in some cases )
Hi there
I have been on the receiving end of a No and on the delivery of a No. The funny thing is saying it is way harder than receiving it.
To be honest it shouldn't be a big deal. We are all adults and here and here by choice, so if we decided it a non runner so be it and move along. I really don't think an explanation is required.
Like one of the previous posts I too have had some great fun, conversations with people I will probably never play with, but we each have respect each other and that is the key word - respect in all of this.
If somebody does take the hump because you said no to them, well its their tough shit and you're probably better off for it to.
Keep on swinging in the freeworld
FH
Interested to see lads views here as a few lads have said that they feel like they cant say no to some women as it will give them a bad name????
I dont understand that at all
Hi there kkgirl,if i was told no id take it at that and leave it,theres no harm in it,its up to you who you want to talk to on here,you will get some guys that can not accectp no for a ans and take offence and cause hassel,you wouldnt want to be meeting up with them kinda guys you wouldnt no what could happen,Am just giveing my veiws, thanks
Regards
Delboy
Saying NO is not a reflection on the other person / persons , it's a personal indication off my likes and dislikes , I don't and haven't take offence to anyone who has said NO , Isn't it a given right as an adult to say no to some one , something and or situations and is not intended as an insult to others or events it may be applied to .
But if the No is accompanied with insults and innuendos on my personal being , believe me my reaction will be one a defence and id feel justified in doing so . Name calling and slanderous remarks are hurtful and demeaning be they aimed at skin colour , religious beliefs , physical appearance , sexual preferences , Id urge all to think before they go speaking in regards to another's character in this adult world we partake in I'd hope that sort off behaviour wouldn't be relied upon as a honest assessment of any person/persons here
An email not replied to … a polite NO , not interested … time to move on
A NO thanks to a requested meet for coffee or what ever is implied … Shouldn't I feel I am entitled to say no if I don't feel the so called click ?
A none reply to a whisper … Aren't manners free …ask first and you might be surprised
A no show's , hell it happens to us all at sometime and the best thing to do is move on , for whatever there resins for not showing be it real , fake or nervousness , not a lot you can do about it , move on .
A walk out … believe me it to happens and no amount off chatting on phones or cams can be a guarantee that the attraction felt there will be the same when face to face , body langue is hard to judge until its person to person and not all off us well be who you may feel your comfortable being with , so indicating so and leaving is your right at any stage off a meet is ALOUD .
All in all NO is not reflection on the other person / person's …giving or reserving .. Its our personal choice what we are comfortable with and with whom .
But in my … opinion .. if they are reacting badly to a NO that in itself is a indication that the NO was a justified response as most off us use our inner senses as our first reliance and in doing so we are exercising our give right to be who we are and not what others expect us to be just because we happen to be on an adult site .
Judge me not on my choices... only on the value i hold to them .
I have said no on many occassions and will continue to do so if I am not attracted to the person.
I refuse to have sex with anyone I dont feel an attraction or a spark with.
But what I do hate is when I say no to someone, and they then press me for a reason.
Now that incenses me, its my body, why the hell should I have to give anyone a reason cos I dont wanna have sex with them.
It's also a massive turn off I must be honest to have to justify my reasons for a polite refusal. I usually say your not my type and there is always one that has to say well what is your type........ Jesus its now getting painful lol
I dont per say have a type but I do need to feel that attraction, that spark, that mmm I wanna get to know you feeling
but they asked so thats when I stop trying to spare their feelings because by being pushy they are not sparing mine lol..
So trust me folks when I say no its often best not to keep pushing for a reason haha
Happy Swinging :laugh::laugh::laugh:
Quote by irishlass37 I have said no on many occassions and will continue to do so if I am not attracted to the person. I refuse to have sex with anyone I dont feel an attraction or a spark with. But what I do hate is when I say no to someone, and they then press me for a reason. Now that incenses me, its my body, why the hell should I have to give anyone a reason cos I dont wanna have sex with them. It's also a massive turn off I must be honest to have to justify my reasons for a polite refusal. I usually say your not my type and there is always one that has to say well what is your type........ Jesus its now getting painful lol I dont per say have a type but I do need to feel that attraction, that spark, that mmm I wanna get to know you feeling but they asked so thats when I stop trying to spare their feelings because by being pushy they are not sparing mine lol.. So trust me folks when I say no its often best not to keep pushing for a reason haha Happy Swinging :laugh::laugh::laugh:
Couldn't have said it better my self. If pushed.... I've been known to give the reason rather bluntly ,... You're too short, too old, too young, the wrong shape for me.... They do mostly take the constructive criticism but no would be easier on both of us!!
Having not been on here long enough to be in a position to be told no, I can't imagine it's much different than approaching someone at a bar and getting rejected.
I do agree we should be able to say no but some manners dont go amiss, if only to say your not what i am looking for instead of just been down right rude with NO. Just my veiw.
Swing4Ireland features sexually explicit material. To access this site you must be of the legal age to engage with the material of an adult site.
By entering Swing4Ireland you agree to the following;
I am deemed an adult where I live, and I am at least 18 years old
I am allowed to access & view sexually explicit material
0 likes
)
