Quote by user=amazinghead Im new to this site so mabey i dont know what goes on, actually i definately dont know what goes on in chat rooms here. but if anyone, be it a gut/girl/couple behaved in the manner described in any other situation than on line, they would be ignored, or pretty much told to p#*s off. so surely if its a small minority, could they be 'named and shamed' or at least a thread like this opened to let everyone else know what kind of wankers they are. mabey im goin out on a limb, but it'd be a safe bet if a count was done that it would be mainly 'single males' mainly to blame. Im an almost single male, and its frustrating to realise that people reject you just cos you are a guy, even without giving you a chance. i mean, look at the amount of profiles that stress NO SINGLE MALES. For christ sake guys (or others if im bein pc!!), get a life, or a porn mag for fuck sake! your ruining it for the genuine ones.
Well Said Amazing, But Unfortunately the name and shame route is not an option as it could be open for abuse if someone accused another of a no show purely out of malice or some disagreement, and as you know if you get a bad name in walk of life, it can be very hard to get your credibility back. Nice to see folks have keep this thread running, I know it might be a minute effort but keeping it active shows the people its aimed at that the genuine folks won't stand for this carry on.
Here on the forum everyone is clearly thinking about what they saying which is great. A few minutes here is good for the soul. A few minutes on the chat rooms as a newbie leaves a very sour taste my mouth. I won't be going back... unless it's an appointment ;-)
It's a shame if you miss out on the great craic in the chatrooms - for the sake of someone else's bad behaviour - but you'll probably find the quieter rooms more friendly. You're welcome to lurk with me in The Jacuzzi = anytime.
Quote by user=LetsMeetUp Here on the forum everyone is clearly thinking about what they saying which is great. A few minutes here is good for the soul. A few minutes on the chat rooms as a newbie leaves a very sour taste my mouth. I won't be going back... unless it's an appointment ;-)
Your some boy Ti :clap:
Break it all down folks ........ Decent people are decent people, which normally includes manners, respect and some form of ethics. Personalities aside decency is the most basic of all characterisitics required to get on by anyone with anyone.
If some members cant engage the decent aspect to their personailites because thier on a swingsite suggests they are not all that decent in the first instance and should not be tolerated by anyone regardless.
Yes the majority of offenders are male as indeed are the majority of members male but as suggested earlier by tom males are not exclusive in the problem. If you cant behave in a chatroom there is likely to be a high probability you cant behave in a real room, with real people, so a bit of decency a load of fun and enjoyment and lets all get stuck in would be fantastic.....
It's the thin line between an adult site and acceptable behaviour confuses folk it's a line that will always be crossed but if we keep the numbers crossing it down be a great place for us all to perv away
(on re reading that it reads like the transcript off a Rose of Swing Interview Jasus :violin: )
i totaly agree with your rant titan but the thing is there are to many frauds as in young single men thinking its there god given right in to whisper be crude, because they paid to get that far! but its there typical ignorance that is unreal and not saying all single men are like that and there is a fair share of woman doing like wise, but i think education on the how to approach with out been rude and general chat room protocols. as its sad seeing some young lad running in with a horn be shot down and then abuse said person in calling them all sorts which is not on i think a ban atomatic 3 days first offence and a written waring second a week and third strike lifetime ban! that is my two cent worth ..... tatts
have to agree with all you guys and gals, i used to really enjoy the chat rooms, but lately i actually find it a chore going into the rooms, all i want to do is go in get a feel of the people in there and make some conections and new friends, but all that happens is u get bombarded with whispers, and when u ignore them or ask them to stop they just turn into stalkers, something really should be done about it, just because we enjoy being open about our likes and dislikes about our sex lifes doesnt give little runts the right to intrude in our space....omg this ranting is good for the soul lol
Quote by user=tatts i totaly agree with your rant titan but the thing is there are to many frauds as in young single men thinking its there god given right in to whisper be crude, because they paid to get that far! but its there typical ignorance that is unreal and not saying all single men are like that and there is a fair share of woman doing like wise, but i think education on the how to approach with out been rude and general chat room protocols. as its sad seeing some young lad running in with a horn be shot down and then abuse said person in calling them all sorts which is not on i think a ban atomatic 3 days first offence and a written waring second a week and third strike lifetime ban! that is my two cent worth ..... tatts
Wasnt meant as a Rant, was meant as an informative post, answering the people that whine 'This site fake, no one meets, only time-wasters on it' etc.... I appreciate the input though as regards your opinion on it. Hornybutshy
all i want to do is go in get a feel of the people in there and make some conections and new friends, but all that happens is u get bombarded with whispers, and when u ignore them or ask them to stop they just turn into stalkers,
sorry to hear you have been made feel this way, alas we the mods do our utmost to ensure everyone's experience of chat is an enjoyable one, and please don't hesitate in contacting a member of the Mod team if you feel someone is acting inappropriately towards you, We are here to help and a quick whisper In chat to one of us we will see can we be of help.
Well said titan lad i dont really use the chatroom much now but it is hard for the geniune single fellas to meet people specially when there always a few people in there giving abuse.
I think that people should learn we all feelings no matter gender, or sex were are the behaviour of some people in the chatrooms really annoys me sometimes.
Great thread Titan, and unfortunely long over due. Can you mods not set up say 3 ticks and the individual are off air say for a month. This should settle all these one track ponies:taz::giveup::censored:
Titan is totally correct. Without respect you will get nowhere. Sad, obnoxious and rude people who cant introduce themselves properly and use the Hi, how are you, nice tits etc openings have a lot to learn about wooing women. Women are beautiful creatures, very intricate and they look for something that catches their eye, not the regular blah blah blah. And lady swingers are far more fussy when it comes to choosing a partner, which is a good thing. They know what they want and they wont settle for anything less. Great post Titan. But should I have an opinion on this thread considering we dont use the chatroom?
Well said ALICOLWIC
Titan is totally correct. Without respect you will get nowhere. Sad, obnoxious and rude people who cant introduce themselves properly and use the Hi, how are you, nice tits etc openings have a lot to learn about wooing women. Women are beautiful creatures, very intricate and they look for something that catches their eye, not the regular blah blah blah. And lady swingers are far more fussy when it comes to choosing a partner, which is a good thing. They know what they want and they wont settle for anything less. Great post Titan. But should I have an opinion on this thread considering we dont use the chatroom?
Running water never goes stale, you just have to keep on flowing.
well said all love this thread more peole should read this love bonns xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by user=alicolwic Titan is totally correct. Without respect you will get nowhere. Sad, obnoxious and rude people who cant introduce themselves properly and use the Hi, how are you, nice tits etc openings have a lot to learn about wooing women. Women are beautiful creatures, very intricate and they look for something that catches their eye, not the regular blah blah blah. And lady swingers are far more fussy when it comes to choosing a partner, which is a good thing. They know what they want and they wont settle for anything less. Great post Titan. But should I have an opinion on this thread considering we dont use the chatroom?
Once your a Member of the site thers nothing to stop you expressing an opinion alicolwic once its within the AUP of the site. I don't regard the validity of anyone's opinions on the basis if they are a chat room user or not.
Had to weigh in on this thread.
Been a member a good while, someof ye know me. More of ye don't
but I like to think I'm one of the sound guys on here (chat behaviour wise)
but I also have a problem with peoples behaviour on here
I go on cam a fair bit and the annoying whispers I get are shocking
soon as it's on I get women going "show us your cock" "whip out the big lad" "show us your ass" "that room looks too warm for clothes" etc etc
it's degrading and hurtful to be seen as a piece of (admittedly very handsome) meat
I have feelings and want to get to know the person before I get comfortable enough to go any further but most gals on here are after one thing and one thing only. No strings unemotional sex, that's not for me. I need to feel loved. Not get used by the sex crazy women on here.
I don't want to name names but it's usually midnight, Amber, kittylycker and playfull who come outwith the most filth.
There's others too but imm too upset to type any more.
Titan, is there any protection from these temptress harlots?
Quote by user=discreetbuddy Had to weigh in on this thread. Been a member a good while, someof ye know me. More of ye don't but I like to think I'm one of the sound guys on here (chat behaviour wise) but I also have a problem with peoples behaviour on here I go on cam a fair bit and the annoying whispers I get are shocking soon as it's on I get women going "show us your cock" "whip out the big lad" "show us your ass" "that room looks too warm for clothes" etc etc it's degrading and hurtful to be seen as a piece of (admittedly very handsome) meat I have feelings and want to get to know the person before I get comfortable enough to go any further but most gals on here are after one thing and one thing only. No strings unemotional sex, that's not for me. I need to feel loved. Not get used by the sex crazy women on here. I don't want to name names but it's usually midnight, Amber, kittylycker and playfull who come outwith the most filth. There's others too but imm too upset to type any more. Titan, is there any protection from these temptress harlots?
When I called you a septic cankerous oozing mound of filth, I was making reference more to your state of 'filthness' than to my desire to be filthy with ya. I'm sorry I will try to be clearer in future!!!!
Quote by user=discreetbuddy I have feelings and want to get to know the person before I get comfortable enough to go any further but most gals on here are after one thing and one thing only. No strings unemotional sex, that's not for me. I need to feel loved. Not get used by the sex crazy women on here. I don't want to name names but it's usually midnight, Amber, kittylycker and playfull who come outwith the most filth. There's others too but imm too upset to type any more. Titan, is there any protection from these temptress harlots?
Should we stop the phone sex and cyber too?? we wouldn't wanna upset you any further :devil:
Excellent post titan I think the people in question (A)Have Feelings Of sexual Inadequacy (B)Simply have no respect or understanding for the the life style or the people involved (B)Under the illusion that this is somewhere to get there end away and act out with impunity (C)Are totally immature emotionally and sexually (D)Have little or no experience of a sexual relationship:thumbup:
Quote by user=discreetbuddy Had to weigh in on this thread. Been a member a good while, someof ye know me. More of ye don't but I like to think I'm one of the sound guys on here (chat behaviour wise) but I also have a problem with peoples behaviour on here I go on cam a fair bit and the annoying whispers I get are shocking soon as it's on I get women going "show us your cock" "whip out the big lad" "show us your ass" "that room looks too warm for clothes" etc etc it's degrading and hurtful to be seen as a piece of (admittedly very handsome) meat I have feelings and want to get to know the person before I get comfortable enough to go any further but most gals on here are after one thing and one thing only. No strings unemotional sex, that's not for me. I need to feel loved. Not get used by the sex crazy women on here. I don't want to name names but it's usually midnight, Amber, kittylycker and playfull who come outwith the most filth. There's others too but imm too upset to type any more. Titan, is there any protection from these temptress harlots?
:sparring: OMG !!! ima kick yer a££z discreet lmao at yer winky too .... i never ''beg'' to see ya on cam.. i ask!!! to make you feel wanted lmao but if you mix that up with being treated like a piece of meat then theres lil i can do to control that :rascal: you know its sad in todays society that ppl would ''whinge'' about being wanted ... i don't whinge i love the desire aspect of swing and discreet i'm telling on you :kick:hwoar:
Hi, hope its okay but there are a few points, as a complete novice to chatrooms...and to swinging...that come to mind after reading these posts.
When i venture into the chatrooms i find its not what the whisperers say that puts me off, its just that it is distracting and makes following the main chat more difficult.
I also understand why some people would find some of those comments/requests offensive but I guess we are all looking for something different from our real lives so it follows that there is going to be a proportion of members who ARE looking for that 'quick fix' as someone said earlier. Live and let live. If it's not what I want, i can and will just say no thanks.
I know much of it is blatant trawling by these whisperers on the off chance of getting lucky, with no thought for who i am or what i want, but i dont feel offended. For me anyway, i have to admit that bad offers are better than no offers at all.
Also, the 'no strings attached' philosophy i see mentioned on site alot is something i'm having difficulty fathoming and it does add to my confusion. I understand why swinging would have to be NSA but it feels at odds with the whole preamble of building friendships before taking the next step into something physical, something that i hear alot of the members saying they want from prospective chatters. That doesn't sound very NSA to me. The one thing i dont want to do is inadvertantly offend people on this site but, as a new venturer, i don't know or understand what many of the rules are yet and its kinda hard to know how best to engage.
There's no point to my points, i just wanted to share them!
Quote by user=love2watchU Hi, hope its okay but there are a few points, as a complete novice to chatrooms...and to swinging...that come to mind after reading these posts. When i venture into the chatrooms i find its not what the whisperers say that puts me off, its just that it is distracting and makes following the main chat more difficult. I also understand why some people would find some of those comments/requests offensive but I guess we are all looking for something different from our real lives so it follows that there is going to be a proportion of members who ARE looking for that 'quick fix' as someone said earlier. Live and let live. If it's not what I want, i can and will just say no thanks. I know much of it is blatant trawling by these whisperers on the off chance of getting lucky, with no thought for who i am or what i want, but i dont feel offended. For me anyway, i have to admit that bad offers are better than no offers at all. Also, the 'no strings attached' philosophy i see mentioned on site alot is something i'm having difficulty fathoming and it does add to my confusion. I understand why swinging would have to be NSA but it feels at odds with the whole preamble of building friendships before taking the next step into something physical, something that i hear alot of the members saying they want from prospective chatters. That doesn't sound very NSA to me. The one thing i dont want to do is inadvertantly offend people on this site but, as a new venturer, i don't know or understand what many of the rules are yet and its kinda hard to know how best to engage. There's no point to my points, i just wanted to share them!
Some very good points made here, enjoy your time here. And take things at YOUR pace. It’s all about fun and adventure. I do wish guys would not whisper without asking, it’s rude and unhelpful. I like to chat and get a feel for someone's sense of fun and humour; this is very sexy and should be explored with respect and a smile.
Quote by user=love2watchU Hi, hope its okay but there are a few points, as a complete novice to chatrooms...and to swinging...that come to mind after reading these posts. When i venture into the chatrooms i find its not what the whisperers say that puts me off, its just that it is distracting and makes following the main chat more difficult. I also understand why some people would find some of those comments/requests offensive but I guess we are all looking for something different from our real lives so it follows that there is going to be a proportion of members who ARE looking for that 'quick fix' as someone said earlier. Live and let live. If it's not what I want, i can and will just say no thanks. I know much of it is blatant trawling by these whisperers on the off chance of getting lucky, with no thought for who i am or what i want, but i dont feel offended. For me anyway, i have to admit that bad offers are better than no offers at all. Also, the 'no strings attached' philosophy i see mentioned on site alot is something i'm having difficulty fathoming and it does add to my confusion. I understand why swinging would have to be NSA but it feels at odds with the whole preamble of building friendships before taking the next step into something physical, something that i hear alot of the members saying they want from prospective chatters. That doesn't sound very NSA to me. The one thing i dont want to do is inadvertantly offend people on this site but, as a new venturer, i don't know or understand what many of the rules are yet and its kinda hard to know how best to engage. There's no point to my points, i just wanted to share them!
Hi loveto, hope you are enjoying the site so far. I guess N.S.A. might also be termed as 'uncomplicated', both parties have a desire and would hope to mutually fulfil it. Building a rapport first would usually enhance this experience, as there would be a level of security and comfort that goes with this, plus the build up can be phenomenal. As a single female I notice that it's not often mentioned, but when starting out I would spend WEEEEEEEKS chatting to a guy before arranging a meet,simply because I was a solo female leaving myself in a secluded and private situation. There is a whole security aspect associated with this and at the end of the day you need to ensure you are safe. There have been times that I would have chatted to a guy on here, gotten a great first impression, then 2 weeks down the line something would just have 'put me off' shall we say. Now this was not me being a timewaster, the initial conversations were to determine the potential for a meet, when that was no longer there I moved on. Plus some of us enjoy the site not just because it's a means to a sexual encounter, but because of the greater discretion it allows us to achieve a satisfactory one. A wham bam thank you mam experience can be found in any nightclub at any time, ya don't need to join a site for it.
Thanks Midnight, that kind of helps. I guess its that thing im trying to find my feet with. The fantasies that brought me here are anonymous and random in nature, so i kind of have sympathy with the 'route one' mentality of some of the people who dont feel the need to build up that rapport you mention. I've never done anything to act on them before so ive never experienced any NSA encounter. I have been chatting with a few regulars since i joined and i certainly see the merit in it from a safety point of view but in a strange way, it detracts from the fantasy. I think i'm just a bit odd (!!!) but i can see the attraction in something more spontaneous. Its all new to me and its all just part of the experience, i guess, which is why i dont feel so negatively about the unsolicited advances. Give it time though and maybe i'l start feeling like everyone else lol
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but well said your still my hero 
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you,d know about it lol
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you know its sad in todays society that ppl would ''whinge'' about being wanted ... i don't whinge i love the desire aspect of swing and discreet i'm telling on you :kick:
hwoar: