I have decided to post this thread following many conversations with members about what their expectations are when meeting someone for the first time.
In my experience, it would appear that many single girls are nervous about meeting guys or indeed couples as their maybe an expectation that you MUST play with those you meet. And I do think this could be the same for single guys too.
Personally, I would have no expectations as what we see behind a computer screen, quite often is not the real person face to face.
So I invite everyone to be honest here, and hopefully, this might help us all in developing a greater understanding and respect for those whom we might like to meet and also help us to appreciate that everyone gets nervous from time to time, and by realising this, our self confidence might grow too.
I would have to say, go with no expectations, have things arranged where it is possible for the full sex meet to go ahead, but meet with the intentions of a drink chat and a laugh, i am sure over time there will be meets myself and lim will go on where either us or the other person/persons are not comfortable to go ahead, all we would do there is continue with the social side of things, and have a great night with our new friends, at the end of the day, on here we are all just words, some peoples personality does come out well online, but others may not be as comfortable once the pc zone isnt between you, and your talking to a real person, now i;m sure lim would agree with me, and there was a post before about whether to go for it in a meet if there was no spark, think this just extends off that.
It may be a swing site, but it dont mean you have to go ahead with something you are not happy about,
I would concur with all Virgo & Watlim have said. I suppose I would approach a meet more in hope than expection. As you rightly point out whom you meet may not be the person behind the PC, despite numerous mails, texts & chats. That said I have not yet had a bad first meet & all ended in fun.
To each their own, if you want to meet up to chat ect thats fine but if we go to the trouble of arranging a meet we tend to be quite clear that we want to meet for sex. We have made the mistake of going ahead without there been any attraction there but swinging we feel is a learning experiance and as you become more experiance with it, the more you really get to know what you want.
Sometimes the unexpected provides the surprises
:rascal: :devil:
don't go to meets with the expectation of sex, but do hope it would happen, after all this is a swing site and for me after chatting etc agreement to meet is based on an initial attraction in the virtual world so hopefully this attraction would exist in the real world and let nature take its course from there
he did me proud, was well worth the wait :rascal: :devil: