Okay have been reading some of the posts ect..and mulling this question over in my mind for quite a while now..
How did you first cope with sharing your partner sexualy, I mean emotionaly?. I still find it difficult to imagine watching a partner having sex with someone else.. That may seem weird, given my experiences, it wouldn't be jealousy that would prevent me,more a sense of intrusion on our sexual core..
A lot of couples have told me, they feel a special bond and a warmth shared afterwards, others said they felt guilty and jealousy did occur.
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Couples question..
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:Pfirst time it was quite weird but exciting, as a former jack the lad who cheated on every girl i ever went with ,having sex with someone in front off mrs it didnt feel anything like cheating because it was some thing we were sharing. But as swingers as opposed to wife swappers ,we very foolishly had seperate room sex once and it did feel like cheating and did play with our emotions,and it was an experience we will never repeat again ,as it took us a longtime to come to terms with what we had done ,"sharing is caring ":inlove:
well addies...our first time was with a single woman, which was way cool, but every time we have swung with a cpl there have been repercussions of one sort or another...we worked thru them, but that's the reason it wud take a very special cpl for us to do it again, Strangely enough we had the opposite reaction to Tussey to a seperate room encounter - we had the least fall-out emotionally from that - but I think that's just horses for courses ye know?
I think that swinging will expose any insecurities you may have regarding ur partner - i had a fear of her taking off with someone else despite the fact that we have been friends for 20 yrs and together for 10, but i that is definately down to the fact that i'm very rarely satisfied with my "performance", even if she says she is. I know now that she has the same fear, but for different reasons.
On a positive note i will say that our experiences have made things somewhat better in that respect, and i think that if/when we return to swinging it will be with a greater confidence in each other, and ourselves. It has also improved our home sex life, and for those reasons alone it was worth the journey.
I normally follow the precautionary principle in most aspect of my life - if in doubt then don't - and to be honest i had doubts not about my own reaction to it but to hers, but as it turned out it was me i shud have worried about all along, so that was a lesson learned for sure. I know that for some the idea is appealing but the reality can bite you hard if ur not careful.
As a final word...glad ur still with us addies...me and you don't always see eye to eye about stuff, but ur a very smart woman and i have nothing but respect for ye hun. oh yeah, just in case ye don't know, i'm mr losmags.
andy
Thanks to the tusseys and Mr t-bags for your honest replies, I am sure a lot of couples on site have experienced exactly the same problems you all described.
Thanks Andy, have total respect for yourself , always did, and if everyone shared the same opinons on site, it would be bloody boring...
Nothing as enjoyable, like a good debate , now and again..
