Hi all.
OK here's a another discussion I found on a UK site and thought it might be interesting to get an Irish view point on. My own personal opinion is that every relationship is different & whatever works for that couple works for them.
Couples meeting solo
When we started swinging a couple years ago we started by only playing same room - from our very first encounter we were full swap swingers ... but originally our rules were full swap same room, and we very quickly discovered just how much we love group sex and we still do.
Then after about 6 months we started to try sep room and found we love that too - it is such a more intimate experience than same room.
After about another year we progressed to trying solo meets - once we had agreed we were both happy with the idea Mr said Mrs should be the first to try it but funny enough it ended up being the opposite way round.
Solo meets we have found to be extremely intense experiences and we also get off big time ourselves afterwards just by talking about what happened and it always ends up in a passionate shag second to none.
Also as a point of example, if Mrs is doing a Solo meet then Mr gets a massive buzz out of choosing very sexy clothes for her to wear.
Yet it seems most couples on this scene would disagree about the solo meet thing, as though we are doing something wrong or 'not strictly speaking swinging'.
Yet we feel, having met very young and being together for nearly 30 yrs and married (to each other lol) for most of those, that we know exactly what it takes to keep a steady stable relationship, and playing alone can be part of that.
So yes we love group sex, no one needs to convince us of those pleasures, we both love to see each other being fucked by someone else, and we love to play with each other as well as others at the same time.
We also love to go sep room for a more 1-on-1 experience and we love to meet solo if the mood takes us.
So are we just more openly minded swingers than is the 'norm' maybe or are we just plain weird?
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couples meeting solo
Alan, I think it's great that you're bringing these things up, very interesting topics that probably need to be discussed! :clap:
Know what I think pretty much covers every single should-it-be-done-or-shouldn't-it in swinging?
Each to their own.
People, don't judge others for what they do, because there WILL be those happy to judge you for what you do. If you don't like someone else's choices, just bow out and don't swing with them! Just as some of us are into BDSM and others aren't, some are into watersports and others aren't, there will be some swingers who go solo and some who don't.
Again, great topic, well done Alan.
Boo.
Edit: Oops, that's not really an Irish viewpoint, it's a sort of semi-English/Irish South African viewpoint... :-o Hope it's okay anyway!
Know what I think pretty much covers every single should-it-be-done-or-shouldn't-it in swinging?
Each to their own.
People, don't judge others for what they do, because there WILL be those happy to judge you for what you do. If you don't like someone else's choices, just bow out and don't swing with them! Just as some of us are into BDSM and others aren't, some are into watersports and others aren't, there will be some swingers who go solo and some who don't.
Again, great topic, well done Alan.
Boo.
Edit: Oops, that's not really an Irish viewpoint, it's a sort of semi-English/Irish South African viewpoint... :-o Hope it's okay anyway!
Boo hun, ur spot on again....there are plenty of folks on here who think they know what "real" swinging is and judge you accordingly, and plenty away from the site that will judge you for doing it in the first place...your best just doing what feels good to you and the hell with everyone else.
Alan mate...normal isnt a word that get used on here very often, except maybe as an insult(lol) - I would certainly hate to think anyone thought I was "normal" ffs!!!
On the subject of your post...we have had both same room and different room encounters, and my opinion is that there is good to be said about both - it's great to be all there having a gas - all hands on deck as the naval saying goes, but when you are alone with someone things can be more intense, and maybe its easier to do and say things that might be outside what you usually do with your partner. We haven't met apart from as a couple, although we have talked about it.
Good thread mate
Sex God
Great Thread Alan,
I echo what andy said, I would hate to be classed as normal, Coming from the single male point of view swinging to me means having fun either socially or sexually with a likemided individual or couple, how you go about the physical side of things depends on all involved and as the often scroned single male I normally like to go with the pace the couple want to set. After all as a Single male in the couples situation your an accessory, and ass a few cpl profiles on here state 'We'll contact the single males when we want/need them' and thats perfectly fine with me.
True some people have Idea's of what is and is not swinging, but I imagine if we are open enough to share intimacy with others on a public medium such as the swinger site we would be the same way in our thinking of what and what is not swinging.
Just my two bob.
