this is a dilema I found on another site, but it does raise an interesting question for the single guys & girls. It would be intersting to see if the opinions here mirror those on the other site.
"Im single and dont want to be Ive met lots of men off regular dating sites but they are never on the same wavelengh sexually. So i joined a 'paying' swinging site and was honest about what i wanted, but i deleted myself after getting some really nasty comments such as '' you dont belong on here, its not for people like you''.
So far ive had no horrible mail on here but get loads of men mail me who say they want a longterm relationship but really they are wanting a fuck buddy.
Am i just being naive? I just figured if i wanted to meet a sky diver id join a parachuting club, so if i want to meet a guy who swings....."
Will my option is :-
If you come on here to find love and love only
then it is not going to happen. Go to a dating site. But if you come of here as a swinger and single maybe in time you might find love.
And anyway they say you find love when you are not looking and it bites you in the ass :thrilled:
from personal experience:
i found love on another site.. but i swear to god if u do find love on any site.. get off it straight away.. theres to many tempations out there and i seriously say its one of the main causes for a cpls breakup.. women out there not fukin happy with wot they have.. have no self respect.. etc.. wots the thrill in hurting other people ill never know.
so yea as u can see mine didnt go all to well..
Dont come onto a swingers site looking for love ----- but u know what they say - u find love in the strangest places.
Ive mates on here that have found partners - and are very happy with them. Some of these have continued to swing together and are having a great time. For me personally if i was to get into a relationship with someone on here - i would have to stop swinging as i think - personally - that u have to give the guy or girl 100% of ur attention - especially in the honeymoon period if u want it to last. Only my opinion and doesnt work for everyone as the people that have met on here and swing together can prove. And u know what they say........... opinions are like belly buttons ------------ everyone has one but they dont hold a lot of water......:giggle:
Oh sweet jebus, for all things that are holy, if you want love go look elsewhere swinging is as anti monogomous as you can get and if you cant handle someone talking to other members of the oppsosite sex it is not going to work for you.
When will people learn?
it is a funny subject but its true things happen when u least expect it...ive found more people on this site who would be more likened to a respective partner than wen on websites... i found love by chance but i was completly not wantin to find it...plus its understandable how someone would want to find a partner on a swing site if they themselves are very much into sex but also i seemed to have found the most genuine people ive ever met in my life here and found the weirdest individuals on said dating sites...
I have had the opposite problem. Have had 3 women i met in swing sites fall in love with me and go all bunny boiler on me.
When two people meet and get on who knows what's going to happen. I have met a few people and become very close to them, one especially is very close to me and i know that we could be a lot more if situations where different.
Have found some really laid back genuine people on swing sites once you wade through all the messers, so i suppose you never know whats around the corner so all you can do is enjoy the ride.
Sean xx
"fall in love with me and go all bunny boiler on me. " ...now that is scarey .... what is the male equivalent of the "bunny bolier"....
that said if not love on here is it possible for people to form a platonic relationship with the friends you make on here ... just because they are on swing does that mean the relationship always has to be sexual or does that defeat the central premise of this site?
Regarding love on here , you can find love anywhere even when your not looking , if it works out or not thats another story ........
But regarding finding platonic friends here , that is 100% possible , I chat away to everyone and anyone in the chat room but I have made some lifelong friends with certain people ,people who I consider my family, who only for joining this site I would never have had the opportunity to meet .. friends who will remain my friends long after I have left the site ,
I love ye all (ye know who ye are )
well i have to say i came on this site to get away from love and have the fun i missed from being with someone but how was i know i would find the love my life after nearly 2 years on this site i owe this site for bringing me donna and yes i would give all this up for her if she wanted me 2 but have to say u cant come on looking for love on a swing site it wont work like tat but if u do like i have well it does then dont it :clap::inlove:
fec anto super post mate thanks ...having met both you and donna, I must say love is where you find it:inlove: what a super couple you are I wish you both the best of (sexy) happiness :rose::thrilled:
have to agree with Dora, Bi-atch
I have made friends , who only for joining this site I would never have had the opportunity to meet & will remain friends after I have left the site , its a wonderful way to get to know people who are totally genuine ...& once you get over your initial nervousness the chatroom is the best & definitivly addictive....
& certainly love does find you in the strangest & least expected places...
swinging...whats got to do with it?
I don't think you can come to a swingers site expecting to find love but you could always join a regular dating site and just be honest being into swinging.
Although thinking about it and considering my own love life, any advice I give is probably the opposite of what you should do!
i never expected to find love on here but i did, the biggest problem i have gettin my head round is the fact that we met on a swingers site . we dont intend to swing together . he has cancelled his account and it expires in a couple of days .. i want to keep mine for the soul purpose of chatting but i have told him my password and he is more than welcome to log on to my account at any time..... i have made my profile idiot-proof so dat even the most oportunistic chancers know that they are not goina get anywhere mailing me .. but in fairness i have to say ive mostly had people wishing us luck and hoping things go good for us
Quote by user=just-me i never expected to find love on here but i did, the biggest problem i have gettin my head round is the fact that we met on a swingers site . we dont intend to swing together . he has cancelled his account and it expires in a couple of days .. i want to keep mine for the soul purpose of chatting but i have told him my password and he is more than welcome to log on to my account at any time..... i have made my profile idiot-proof so dat even the most oportunistic chancers know that they are not goina get anywhere mailing me .. but in fairness i have to say ive mostly had people wishing us luck and hoping things go good for us
((((((((((((((((((Just-Me & 'Friend'))))))))))))))))) You're a lovely girl Just-Me and deserve all the happiness you can squeeze - Do I have to buy a hat yet lol
:inlove:well have to say i found love here wasnt lookin met fab gent been together awhile now do anything for him he rocks my world ive no shame in saying i met him on a swing site:clap: were here to chat get to know each other and have fun :bounce:isnt that what its all about:clap: head hunny loves ya sexy who knows could be dead tomorrow and ill die happy with a smile on my face he does enjoy a 5 o clock wake up hehe xxxxx hwoar::doggy:
Quote by user=shabbadelicious well i have to say i came on this site to get away from love and have the fun i missed from being with someone but how was i know i would find the love my life after nearly 2 years on this site i owe this site for bringing me donna and yes i would give all this up for her if she wanted me 2 but have to say u cant come on looking for love on a swing site it wont work like tat but if u do like i have well it does then dont it :clap::inlove:
Donna n Anto met on ere!!! That's tha sweetest! That's class that is. :smitten::smitten: N they s so loved up :happy::smile2::happy::smile2:
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ive no shame in saying i met him on a swing site:clap: were here to chat get to know each other and have fun :bounce:isnt that what its all about:clap: head hunny loves ya sexy who knows could be dead tomorrow and ill die happy with a smile on my face he does enjoy a 5 o clock wake up hehe xxxxx 
hwoar::doggy: