Ageism

22 Apr 2009

A comment which was passed in chat today has got me thinking....some one said in jest that some one young didn't know what they were doing. Fair enough this comment was only made as a joke by the person but this is something I see popping up more often. People seem to be under the common misconception that if someone is younger than he/she isn't emotionally mature, doesn't know what they want sexually or are not very good sexually. In my honest opinion that is a pile of crap. As ye are all aware I'm only 19 and was quite aware of what I wanted this weekend compared to some other 'older mature' couples who seemed insecure in themselves. I just want to ask people to think for a second and realize that maturity has nothing to do with age, as we are all aware I'm sure of that immature 50 year old or that mature 18 year old. Fair enough if people prefer to not play with younger people, that is their choice. But do not make that personal choice reflect on 'young people' as a whole. Sorry people but thats a rant that has been brewing. Oh and by the way to the person who left that comment, this isn't directed at you at all, I know you were joking hun. Sarah

22 Apr 2009

Hi Sarah.... Maybe this "misconception" came about because a lot of the older generation believe they have lived it all already,,and that the Younger people coming up are just still learning,and have along way to go?? It's something that We disagree with,to be honest. We have found a lot of Young people in this game really do know what they want,and how to enjoy it,While We have also come across Older people who are lost. A good few young people do have a higher rate of instability,and jealousy,in this game,,but,,then again,,happens to older people also.. Swingers are a Special breed...:thumbup:

22 Apr 2009

under no circumstance was i saying that all young people are mature and no what I want as that is certainly not the case but i do think that it is unfair that people automatically presume that all young people are immature insecure and unsure of what they want.

22 Apr 2009

Quote by user=bobbybobette
under no circumstance was i saying that all young people are mature and no what I want as that is certainly not the case
but i do think that it is unfair that people automatically presume that all young people are immature insecure and unsure of what they want.

above is supposed to be know what they want

22 Apr 2009

Yes there is ageism out there but at the end of the day its up to everyone as individuals who they play with or do not play with , "sorry your too young" , "sorry your to old" , "sorry your not what I/we are looking for" , "Sorry I/we are not attracted to you" .. things that are said to us all at one stage or another on this journey , Rejection for whatever reason is part and parcel of the scene , now not for one minute am I putting you in this category sarah hun but none of us no matter what age like rejection and perhaps where the immaturity of some young people come up is how they handle this rejection , not in fact in there sexual knowledge or experience , By now means am I saying that someone who is 20 is not mature but I will say that in comparison to when I was 20 (10 yrs ago) I have matured greatly , although I can understand completely how someone younger could be offended by ageism , I can also see why it does exist

26 Apr 2009

Life is evolving all the time. What we think we want at 20 is not the same as when we are 30; and it has all changed again by the time we are 40, 50 and 60. They are convenient milestones from which to look back and evaluate your needs and desires, based on the information gathered to date.
I have encountered much younger than my preferred age range and much older. Each person has their own merits and once you start getting to know a person your thinking about them changes too. Having chosen to enjoy only the people I connect with then age can disappear as 'an issue'.
God Bless the tasty morsel who waited nearly two years while our friendship developed!!
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