Hi All,
With everything I have been hearing lately about abusive whispers in the chatrooms, cammers being abused, people with numerous profiles, guys posing as girls or couples etc id like to get peoples opinions on the following.
Would it not be very easy to weed all these people out if the following was done
This is a paid website so everyone who has a profile has obviously given their credit card details. Would it not be easy to compile a list of names from these cards and link these names to the profiles.
Anytime a new profile is opened on the site admin can then match these details against a list of already active profiles. If these card details are already on the list admin can pose the question as the why the person needs a second profile.
As well as this they can set up a list of abusive profiles and add these names etc to this list. If someone who has been banned then tries to set up a new profile they can be blocked from having another profile on the site.
Obviously this site is here to make money as well as facilitate swingers so maybe a warning system could be set up where profiles are given one or two warnings before being suspended but if their behaviour continues then they are banned for good.
The reason I started this thread is that some good people are leaving the site lately because of this abuse and I have heard some horror stories from the real female profiles of what some guys are saying. There is a great community of swingers on here but because of the action of the ignorant minority they are being driven away.
Anyway thats my thoughts on the subject. Id love to hear both the users and mods opinion of it
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You have some good ideas but it would involve a lot of time on admins part to monitor them and maybe also there could be some issues with ppl privacy with their credit card, and if admin are able to hold credit card details.
We have had our fair share of abuse and partly over that we are taking a break but we still come on and chat and cam sometimes. If we took the abuse seriously we wouldn't be on the site, after all it is only a cyber medium and we don't have to chat to ppl here if we don't want to and don't have to meet them either.
Maybe admin will have a look at your ideas and hopefully come up with a solution to keep the messers out
as ridiculous as this is going to sound, the genuine people don't have a problem sorting out the fakes, yes the newbies will find it difficult, but in saying that, a lot of the newbies on sites find it difficult to contact genuine fun people, but there is a simple way to do it, don't arrange to meet anyone without first knowing they are what they claim to be, the site now has media facilities where cam and mic are available which can be used in a password protected room, the site has also initiated a whisper disable facility, just turn it off if you don't wish to hear abuse and post in open chat that you have disabled whispers because of this ;)
we are after all supposed to be adults on here, so lets act accordingly, if you have whispers enabled, you can choose to ignore and they eventually give up.
the site would love to say that most of its members are the salt of the earth, but in reality we know we are going to have a few bad eggs, but every site has that problem, its really up to the members themselves to get to know the people they want to chat to or hook up with and they do so solely at their own discretion.
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sites like these afford people an opportunity to meet people they may never have otherwise in any walks of life, the site does its job in that respect.... the other leg work is down to those that use the site itself 
Casgar,,Also remember....This site was a "free" site before the summer of last year.....So,not everyone who are "full" members now,,needed a credit card to join up. They were simply "upgraded".
Also,this site has a fantastic Admin,and Mod team,and We do work hard,All the time to weed out the false profiles. However,it does take time,,but,We get there in the end.
It is sad to see people having to leave the site over a select few,,but,this is not restricted to this site alone....This sort of thing happens on most,if not All sites....And,Not all sites are lucky enough to have a Mod Team working on sorting out the issues!!
These things happen in waves from time to time and its very frustrating when its going on around you. I have lifetime memberships in several sites and have found this one to be one of the better run and policed in general.
You are always going to get people who get their kicks pretending to be something they are not and for the life of me i will never understand why a guy would pretend to be a girl, as its not going to get him anywhere and they are usually fairly easy to spot.
Its hard for newbies as couples and harder for singles and it takes a bit of time to weed your way through all the stuff to find the genuine ones, but with a little time and patience you get there.
There will always be messers and the mods to be fair to them have a horrible thankless job to do to try and keep some sort of order. If people are getting abuse, report is as if a few people report it then its easier for the mods to deal with. Get yourselves validated and this will help.
if its too good to be true it usually is, and sadly we will always loose some great people but that's the nature of the lifestyle in my experience and some come back and some move on. I know lots of people on here from previous sites so some have found their way here and they usually stay for a bit.
I live for the day the ignore button finally finds it way onto this site as it should cut down on some of the messers, but you are never going to be able to eliminate it all.
Swinging can give you the best of times, but sometimes you need a thick skin too.
Sean xxx
Cheers all for the opinions and can i just say that this thread wasnt aimed at the mods at all. I know ye guys have such a thankless job sorting through all the shit that goes on on this site and i do thinik ye do a great job.
I suppose mt point was that the majority of the abuse comes from a small minority. I have a feeling that any of them that are banned just set up a new profile and start all over again. I felt that if these people are reusing the same card details it would be an easy way of getting rid of the worst abusers
Well,Casgar,,I never once took it as a thing against the Mods. I was just trying to explain how it works.
You see,,When it was a "free" site,some people took advantage,and set up multiple profiles,including false ones. So,when Admin issued the Upgrade last year,all those profiles were carried over.
So,,in reality,,these are the ones We are slowly weeding out.
As for now,with the site being a "pay" site,,you'll find it very very rare indeed,,to find someone willing to pay,just to be setting up False profiles.
With so many people joined,,and joining,,it is not an easy task,,but,,We are getting there,,and,hopefully it won't be too long before We have most,if not all of the false profiles weeded out!!
