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1st meet expectations
1st meet expectations
alan, you left off the middle option.....to see how it goes, and if the connection is there then go for it, if it's not then don't. thats the one i would have voted for.
I think it all depends on how well you have got to know the person/people before you actually meet them. If it's someone you have hardly chatted to then I think you would be mad to expect anything, if you have been chatting for ages and know that, barring the fact that they have been lying through their teeth, you get on great, then why not have expectations?
Having said that, I guess it does really depend on your approach to all this in the first place. Some folks on here are mad for it, others are much more cautious. I don't think there is a right or a wrong way to do it, just personal preferrence.
That is a tricky one though...what happens if you meet a couple person even though you both exchanged a lot of flirting etc in the build up to the meet and then you find the spark is just not there when you meet face to face. Crikey I would feel terrible if they/he have booked room ready for play and then I upped and left after a drink saying I changed my mind and wasnt feeling it! Would nearly feel obliged to give a sympathy shag :violin: has this happend to anyone?
:taz::cry:
that happened to me once barb and felt like shit the next day never did it since and never willunfortunately the voting option seems to have stopped, but from the small pool it appears that go without expectaitons is the best way to view a 1st meeting. Personally I approach 1st meets with no expectations even when there has been texts, mails & chat before hand, mails & texts can give a false courage & on the day there may be a change of heart ... many of us have had the "no show". without expectations it is easier to have a relaxed chat & find out about people ... however there are also those occassions when you just want a one nite stand & really dont care if there is a connection ...
lastly I applaud Barbarella & Dublin2sum that on occassion rather than let the people down will "obliged to give a sympathy shag" :violin:
...dedication above and beyond the call...:thumbup::thumbup::thumbup:
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Great Post Alan,
In my experience I think going to a meet with an open mind and no expectations is the only way to go. its one thing having great chat rapport in the rooms/emails/ phone etc but when meeting face to face things can change so I would say just go with the flow and see how it goes.
offallycpl ,,,excelant my thoughts exactly,,,find it hard to get away with having 2 kids so when i do i wnat a shag for my efforts lollollol but yes agree geting to know ppl and know you click before you meet is so important..now im horny and want a shag bring it on lollol......
dub2sum,,hope i wasnt your sympathy shag lollol ha ha
I, for one on the first real meet (after the cam, texts, picture messages, and phone calls) go with an open mind with no expectations.
I don't go with the intention of having sex, my motto is, having chatted and all parties feeling comfortable, lets meet and take it from there.
Too many people on site think a meet is a chance to get laid!!!! or get your rocks off, that does not work for me.
Compatibilty is vital!
Alan, once again another great post.
Just my two pennies worth
expectations are never what you expect ...
and I have had the most craic when I least expected... so now always meet with an open mind ... it fun & excitement we are looking for, not love & committment ... so if people have gone to the bother, made and effort & showed up ... whats to refuse ... & girls I am with you even the symphaty shag can be memorable & enjoyable :giggle: ...
after all its only sex :taz: 
