I've been watching this post with interest.
This comment is only from my own personal observations over the years. I appreciate I have been around for a while and am known so its probably abit easier for me than newbies. But in actually fact its not hard to organise some fun and adventure. What makes it difficult for the single guys are the messers, we all know them, from the 'i want to know more' to the 'no shows' to the 'nasty whispers'. Unfortunately, and understandably we (single guys) do get tarred with the same brush as a result.
So the most important thing is to prepare a decent profile, make the effort, get some decent pics. Tell the person who is reading your profile abit about yourself. One liners such as, big cock wants to get laid - really don't work.
The chat room is a great place for others to get to recognise your profile and thats when other members of the site will have a look at yours. Don't be shy - you have to make the effort to introduce yourself and to stand out from everybody else. Nobody else is going to do it for you. Its up to you to get out there and be recognised. Get involved, go to M+Gs. Its simply all about marketing.
Make the effort, be honest and if you make an arrangement follow through. Then you get verified and comments and thats when the effort starts to pay off.
Hope that helps and happy swinging