Swing Party Etiquette !

Think this needs to be put up again
Some people still don't get it !
Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity.
Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.
Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, condoms, sexy games, sexy videos, etc.
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or unfresh breath. Shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.
If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.
Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, aids, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes to provide you both with protection.
Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

Excellent Thread Hotnfiery!! thrilled Well written, friendly and to the point advice. Although its been some time since I was in a party situation it's certainly advice I could have done with for the first party I attended. Newbies and old hands take note ...

HotnFiery thumbupthumbup ...agree with Kitten...fab post ...and being a non-party goer...i would say that this goes clear across the board..whether a single meet or party!! Thanks for reminding us grin & mmfmgrin: Happy Holidays mmfmgrin:

Well done HNF thumbupthumbup

This could do with some reading by a lot of peeps, while it's swing Party Etiquette, i think it should be taken on board for any meet of any sort swing related.. Well Done HNF on posting

Great post. Should be a sticky. Not the responses just the post by HnF

Great post HNF. I'd like to also add something to the list if I may be so bold... icon_lol 17. BE CONSIDERATE OF YOUR [u:a257e35ecf]OWN[/u:a257e35ecf] PARTNER Just because you may have agreed prior to attending a party that you and your partner can play separately with who you like, does not always mean they will be happy for you to do so in any given situation. Always ensure your partner is happy and comfortable for you to play with someone else; neglecting to do so can turn a whole party atmosphere sour if someone's feelings are hurt and a domestic argument ensues.

Now that is how you make a post!! Fantasic info and all very true.

Treat people how ya would like to be treated yourself !!!

Great post HNF thumbup

Thinks some peeps need to read this sad

What happens on tour should stay on tour..... 

Great post and very well said !!!

Super post. And the stimulated additions.. Thanks for taking the time HNF.  HAPPY DAYS!! 

great post everything you wrote well but im waiting for your response

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