*I DO NOT MEET COUPLES* *I DO NOT MEET COUPLES* *I DO NOT MEET COUPLES* *I DO NOT MEET COUPLES*

*I DO NOT CHAT TO PROFILES WITH NO VERIFICATIONS/COMMENTS*

20/03/2014: Okay, am terrible at following my own rules, am 'mostly' here for the chats - with people I already know, so don't even with the uninvited whispers. If you are absolutely compelled to whisper, make sure you're a single male who is verified/comments coming out your ears, not attached (like actually single - cheaters are a pet peeve), under 40, and able to write a first line that is more than hi and yet leaves me with a little intrigue. Telling me your cock size, where you're from, and that you're on cam is NOT intriguing.

10/03/2014: Don't call it a comeback - am not meeting for the foreseeable future, just here for chats!

29/12/2012: Those who know me know where to find me...

Some reflections:

1. Never trust a married/attached guy when he says "Sure, she doesn't mind me camming without her" (yes I was once that naive, it was my first week on the site!)

2. Single guys - turns out they're not all single... Assume attached until proven otherwise, and the old 'tips' of they who won't be seen in public with you, can only meet at weird times - don't always work.

3. If someone is reluctant to tell you what they do for a job, you have one of 3 guesses: garda, army or doctor - however it is almost always garda

4. Don't believe the hype - some of the best meets I've had have been with guys with one or no comments, and some of the guys with great comments coming out of their ears didn't even make it to coffee.

"In the meantime let me tell you that I love you

Buona sera, signorina, kiss me goodnight..."

The main problem with rushing into things is that you can very quickly build an emotional connection with a person and develop a strong attachment (lust, infatuation, whatever you want to call it) before you have really got to know who they are as a person.

Haven’t many of us had those get-to-know-you nights and conversations where we talk for hours and 'discover' everything about the other person? You've done that right, with someone? Doing the whole sharing thing, maybe having sex, quickly? In a short space of time you can end up feeling so close and like you really know the other person. And in some ways you do.

But there are other types of knowledge about a person that only come with time and with interacting over months and even years with them. I would suggest it takes at least a year or so of knowing someone to really begin to get a handle on their overall personality, how they live in the world, what their values are, what they stand for, how trustworthy they are and so on.

We all put our 'best face forward' as it were when we first meet someone, present our 'best' selves. In many ways. This can lead to a huge amount of care and affection being built quickly, but the quickness of the emotions often run the risk of out-pacing how well we really know somebody and how suitable they are for us.

(Excerpt above is from _Raine_ on a site that's apparently unmentionable on here...)

Ok one final final word:

"Girls are not machines that you put Kindness Coins into until sex falls out."

(Again, links not allowed - google "Lamenting the Friendzone")