well first off I'd have to ask if you're truly making an effort to get chatting to people on here?
do you go into the chatroom and involve yourself in the general chat and just get to know some of the people?
do you go to meet&greets?
i would think it very hard to find someone willing to do a random meet without even a minimum amount of chatting first?
for a lot of people it's all in the chase, and this bit turns them on....
i can't imagine if i was in a bar some guy coming up to me and saying "hello" and being like "i'm going to jump your bones"...maybe that's just me but i like a bit of mental stimulation to go with everything else!
if you want to explore sexual fantasies maybe try filling out your profile a little more, that might help?