The mods here are very helpfully if i were you i mail one i dont think they would mind.

Absolutely mail a mod, that's what we are here for and we are more than happy to respond. Sorry I'm only spotting this now and I hope that you have sent your mail and had your query responded to.

Dumb question number two -You know the profile page - theres three icons - one for pics, one for clips....what is the last one for?

Perfect explanation Kitten. The established tag means that the people have met but not necessarily 'had a meet'. I have been established by people I met at meet n greets etc. but not played with.

Its absolutely ok

Discretion is always important but by placing a comment on someones profile your letting people know, I met this guy, he doesn't appear to be a homicidal manic ( for comments on girls, she's not an axe murderer) and what ever else is on there. And chances are they mailed previous people who commented to see if the guy/girl was alright.

Feel free to post here. U could ask in the chat room but it can be a little busy. I don't even mind u mailing me. I was lucky to meet some really really nice people one of which introduced me to a few of the girls at a m&g and it's great to get another woman's opinion considering it's mainly men here (no offence boys) and let's face it it's not the kind of conversation you have in your day to day life friends or family.

No Such thing as a stupid question, we all have varying degrees of experience in this lifestyle and tyou will find most decent folks will have no qualms in answering questions, tis better to know the facts than assume your own conclusion.

As for asking people about others they have met I see no problem in it, provided the persons asked just disclose the important stuff like the persons genuineness and decency....no need to discuss the ins and outs of the meet etc.

A1. Language is just that, language, the interpretation of how things are written is pretty much where users will decide if they are used for fun or are deemed as crude and offensive.

A2. Yes, Cams can be recorded, provide you have the necessary software in place to do so, but saying that, only paid members have access to the chatroom and its not rocket science to find out what user has done it, and unless they have copywrite on whats being broadcast via cam, they leave themselves open to legal proceedings (should things go that far).

A3. Parties, as much as Meet and Greets, are for those that want to enjoy the 'lifestyle', not all swingers are hardcore/full swap, there is also a soft swap/voyeuristic element that enjoy the scene, and as long as you make it aware what you enjoy and what your comfort levels are, then its up to others to respect your wishes.

A4. Meet and Greets and/or parties are the responsibility of the organisers, site members that organise them, do so at their own discretion and its pretty much down to them who they wish to invite, remembering that most of the genuine organisers are there to protect everyones privacy and discretion.

Hope that has helped somewhat but like most have said, there is no such thing as a stupid questions, we all started somewhere and wish we were a lot wiser when we dipped the toes in, but the good thing about making the occasional mistake is you end up learning very quickly of what you like and what you want to avoid