Hi hun. personally I d wait till i knew how serious this is going to be.. Guys can be funny about "promiscuous" girl ;o) You can find out a lil by asking him about his sexual preferences, experiences.. Kinda of test the water first. x
I think deebis is right i would leave it for a few weeks hun and just to see does he feel the same way first before telling him you need a chat hun dont be a affraid to mail me.
biggles.
i would advise to first decide where you see this new relationship going , before disclosing your swing lifestyle , bear in mind , this gent may not be as open minded as youd hope , I imagine he will be horrified at the admission , I think it would only be fair to ask him how serious he sees the relationship at present, he may not be happy about the prospect of sharing you with others, and the last thing you want is for him to go round telling all and sundry about your little hobby .
From a guys point of view, if a woman said this to me i would ditch her straight away......I defintely would bite ur tongue for a lot lot longer. And maybe who knows.........somewhere down the line u may marry this guy and then the time is right
As others have said above... I would wait awhile first. You don't actually know how "into you" this guy is. Sure, he had fun on the dates, but isn't everyone normally on "their best behaviour" for the first few dates? I know I normally am haha.
With that being said... I have a friend who does not consider herself a "swinger," but she does practice polyamory. She only began indulging in that lifestyle within the last 2 years. After dating 3 separate guys for months, she broke the news. Bad idea. All of them had wished she told them sooner and it lead to a lot of conflicts, etc. I don't think you need to wait 3 months lol, but I would wait a few more weeks and see where it goes first.
I hope that helps
Quote by user=officer From a guys point of view, if a woman said this to me i would ditch her straight away......
An interesting attitude from a Guy ... so if as a single lady you were down the pub/nightclub & having lots of 1 night stands it would be ok as that would be your "sexual history/past" ... no problems, sure he has a sexual past also ... but a site where it it is safe/controlled for women to chat, question, find out about & eventually meet guys ... & because it deems you to be a Swinger ... thats not ok because it is being a "promiscuous" girl ... how is it different to the occasional 1 night stand? ... in a modern society surely women are entitled to be in control of their own sex lives, who & how they meet ... on-line dating sites are a part of modern society & SEX is the underlying goal of all singles looking to meet ... S$i is just more up front about it. as for the
Quote by user=officer ..I defintely would bite ur tongue for a lot lot longer. And maybe who knows.........somewhere down the line u may marry this guy and then the time is right
... surely a relationship has to be based on honesty, especially if marriage is on the cards ... telling after the ring is on your finger is too late ... LB for the time being "keep your breath to cool your porridge" ... it is a big bridge to cross, wait until you see what this guy & his views are really like ... if all goes well, it may become a secret you have to take to the grave with you.
i believe everyone should be all they can be and if somone doesnt like you for who you are as a person then I as a person wouldnt really bother with them. maybe you guys have a Ninja code on the outdoors but thats just how i feel when it comes to everything.
are the guys really suggesting that if you said to him you liked the idea of exploring your lesbian side and wanted him along, he would go screaming home to mummy......
I think girls think boys are more complicated than we are!
LB hun, part of me says tell him now before you get too involved and if he takes it badly you will get hurt but another part says wait and see how it goes. But i think the most important thing is, do you think you could trust him with your secret? And would you want to swing with him? If not why tell him cause at the end of the day it is just about having sex and is it really his concern how many sexual partners you have had, if you are std free then your past is your concern not his.
But please dont say your going to leave the site too...you have have all us durty ppl on the side lol
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